I don't think people should be nasty or mean-----either the non-anxious to the anxious OR the other way around.
this, of course, is my opinion:
what I find around here, anyway, "support" and "enabling" is in the eye of the beholder. Some anxious peeps think support is receiving endless reassurance and when anything that is the least bit challenging is posed, it is considered mean or unsupportive. and I can say that because I have been on both sides of the issue. so I know how it feels and I know how freaked out/irrational the thinking gets.
we have to remember it is us anxious peeps who have the disorder. it is our thinking that is the problem. We are the ones who need to do the "heavy" lifting on understanding.