I chose not to go kimjai. My daughter and I spoke last night about it and she was totally fine and told me I was still the best mom. Her move in went smoothly with her father and brother's help. I still felt bad about it but I think a big part was just the normal child leaving the nest heartache. She was very excited to go and not nervous or upset so that made me feel better. Thank you for asking! And thanks for all the support from everyone.