Hi, this thread is not what I expected from the title.
But since I'm here, if I may say something, not to be taken the wrong way please... I'd just like to say: don't give a part of yourself to someone UNTIL they've come to earn your trust and have proven their worth to you, and this will require some time, concrete actions from them (not just words), and obvious
signs that they are making an effort to have you in their life (and I mean OBVIOUS SIGNS, not just things you can imagine in your head). I think this is the best way to NOT find yourself in a situation where you are thinking "YOU ARE BEING POOFED ON AGAIN" and "OH MY GOD THE WORST IS HAPPENING"... because, the worst will never happen if you don't give a man the power to take from you without giving back.
Getting a man in the bedroom might get his instant attention for the short term, but it doesn't make him love or respect you.
I mean, the mere fact that you employ the term "slow fade" so casually, makes me HOPE it is not something you are accustomed to? You've mentioned having dated a lot of "assholes"... But a man will only act like an asshole toward someone when they think they can easily get away with it. So, don't make it easy for them "assholes"...!
The thought that I judge him because of every other asshole I've ever dated makes me so sad.
It is okay
to judge a man harshly, even more a stranger! A woman who is a harsh judge, is a respectable woman. Best advice I can give is: when dating a new person, tell them upfront what you want from a relationship (i.e. something serious). If they are insistent on sex, tell them upfront that they will not be getting it so early (unless that's what you want then all the power to you). But a man who is willing to appreciate and respect you, will not be offended by this, trust me.
give more. At all times.
Have confidence in yourself, because you have much more to offer than just your skills in bed!!! :)
I wish you the best.