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Losing weight - and my hair!
« on: June 12, 2014, 09:46:45 AM »
Hi,

I suffer from anxiety disorder and depression, and over the last while since a bad breakup i've been working on improving my life to try and find some happiness in myself. I began a serious diet and have lost quite a bit of weight over the last few months; i'm over half way to my target weight, and was beginning to actually take some positives from looking at myself in the mirror for the first time in many years as the weight noticeably shed. I can wear clothes i'd outgrown; i was even getting a waistline! :laugh3: Even around my face people could see the difference and would pass comment. Then i met my lovely girlfriend, who does nothing but try and build up my confidence.

Very recently, i've noticed higher than average hair loss... i was due a haircut, but i kept putting it off because deep down i was worried i'd discover something i didn't like. Hair loss. My grandfather was noticeably bald with most of his hair totally gone by the age of 25, and my father was almost totally bald by the age of 21. I'm 29 years old and hoped, just hoped, that i'd escaped the curse. But after my haircut i can see undeniable thinning at the temples, and i'm devastated! :traurig001: I can see my scalp, the hair is thin and whispy. I keep my hair a decent length in a side-parting; i'm not one of these fortunate guys who would suit a buzz cut or shaving it all off altogether.

I've been looking at ways to prevent it but there seems to be so many methods out there, some of them contradictory and some of them downright bizarre. Do any gents here have any advice? I want to keep my thick blonde hair before it disappears! :( I don't want to finally lose this weight only to end up losing something more important to my appearance!

I wish i could take it like my grandfather and father... neither of them cared a jot; my grandfather still managed to marry the lady he wanted, and my father just shaved his head and seen it as making showering for work in the mornings quicker. :laugh3: But i've always liked decent length hair and i was hoping with it being the 21st century and all that somebody, somewhere out there must have found a success story to fight it!

Kind thanks for reading,
Gen.
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #1 on: June 14, 2014, 06:20:45 AM »
Could the hair loss not be something to do with the diet you put yourself on? You know yourself. Not getting enough of some vitamin or other. Just something to think about. No expert on hair. I shave my head as a rule. I hate hair. Only one in this family with a full head of hair. Only one who ever wants to shave it off the second it begins to grow. But maybe you cut out eating something that had some vitamin in it that was good for hair. I know there seems to be a vitamin for everything. As this is good for bones and that is good for skin, etc, etc.
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #2 on: July 31, 2014, 06:07:26 PM »
Hi Cuchculan,

Sadly its definitely normal hairloss! Its at the temples and just beginning at the crown, the hair loss hotspots. :( Although i've been on a diet what i do eat is much healthier and nutritious than it used to be; i'm quite careful to make sure that what i eat is beneficial to me when it comes to protein and vitamins. :winking0008: I feel much better than before i started... i can walk for farther without breaking a sweat or anything. Even my skin no longer looks blotchy!

It looks like the only thing i can do is let nature take its couse... i wish i'd had longer with my hair though! :mad0228: I'm shedding before the age of 30!  I'm not going for a combover and i'm not going to try and conceal it; i think that only draws even more attention to it. However, i'm not a head shaver neither, haha! In future i think i'll keep my side-parting but have my hair cut shorter than usual... that should keep things neat.

Ah well, at least i still have my health! :happy0158: Thats what i'll keep telling myself, anyway!

Kind thanks,
Gen.
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #3 on: July 31, 2014, 07:56:00 PM »
Ive got the same problem, im 25 now and ever since i overcame my anxiety crisis my hair rapidly started to thin out within a year my front hairline is receesed now and my crown has patches of thinning hair, it hasent gone away so im guessing its permanent so i started shaving my head too, and to my surprise i love it now, i look so much sharper and fresh, dont forget u can always get a transplant and your hair back to its original state, even though its costly
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #4 on: August 06, 2014, 04:36:53 PM »
Hi london,

I'm pleased that you've found a satisfactory solution. :winking0008: Unfortunately a shaved head wouldn't suit me... everyone from friends, to my family, agree that it wouldn't suit how i look. Plus my girlfriend finds shaved heads unattractive and has specifically asked me not to shave my hair, haha! :laugh3: She needn't worry, as its something i'd never do personally! She tries to reassure me that a bit of hair loss can make a guy look mature if he deals with it the right way, so here's hoping! :happy0158:

I'm luckier than some i suppose... i still have 90% of my hair and am almost 30, yet a guy of 19 years old on my street is way more advanced in hairloss than me and recently has begun shaving it off. My father was the same way. Ah well, i got long enough to enjoy mine i guess, lol. :laugh3:

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Gen.
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #5 on: March 24, 2015, 10:18:55 AM »
Thought I'd update this after coming across it over 6 months later!

Well, I got very, very lucky... my thinning hair has been growing back! No tricks or hair loss techniques; its thicker than it was back then. I'm able to start growing it longer again without it looking whispy. It must really have been anxiety and stress... it seems a shed like a dog when stressed. :laugh3: I'll admit that I'm so pleased to be knocking on the door of 30 with a full head of hair. It would upset me if I were going noticeably bald. One day I accept its something I'm probably going to have to accept - but for now i'll cross that bridge when it comes. :rolleye0012: I really would reassure the occasional young man who comes here fretting about hair loss... it can sometimes really be due to stress and anxiety. :action-smiley-065:

I have to credit my girlfriend with a lot of the turnaround in my stress levels... she's really lovely, patient, considerate. I love spending time with her every day. Recently we just went for it and I actually moved in with her for a month, the first time I've ever lived away from home with a girlfriend. It was wonderful. :-* Despite being together on a daily basis for a month there was no stress, no getting in each other's way. I had a fantastic time, despite what many outsiders would consider 'boring' daily events. Some days the snowstorms were so bad that all we could do for days on end at a time were play board games and cards late into the night yet those nights were so emotionally rewarding too, as well as incredibly amusing when we both got going: I realise a lot of a relationship depends on WHO you're with, not WHAT you're doing together. :yes: Before she made me see that I used to think it was all about planning exciting things together to prevent boredom or tension. After my first relationship went so badly (we were not matched at all) this one has given me my confidence back. She's given me so much back and much of the time we spent together, nearly every day I felt underserving of her. We're about to try being together again, for another month. We're taking things slowly and cautiously. :winking0008: Even if we don't go out much except on daily humdrum business i'll be over the moon. Despite not living together most of the time we make sure to talk every day. There's never been a day where we haven't spoken. I have no fears about her loyalty when we're apart; I trust her 110%. And its very rare to ever earn my trust. My last one never did. I've made the acquaintance of many ladies over the years but I can say without exaggeration I've never met anyone like my girlfriend. She's the only woman I've ever known (despite my mother, heh!) who I can really just relax and be myself around. I don't have to pretend to be something or someone I'm not.

As for my diet; I lost too much weight! :dazed: My skin began to get loose and saggy in places and I hated being too thin just as much as being too fat. So... I deliberately began putting on weight again. :laugh3: Now I'm at a happy medium. Despite that I'm still belt notches away, as well as shirt and trouser sizes reduced, from where I once was. Its made me so happy. I hated being fat. It sapped at my confidence. Don't get me wrong, I am usually hungry throughout the day; I WANT to eat as much food as I used to pack away. But I like where I've come too much to go back. Plus, my girlfriend deserves better than for me to get selfish that way. She would still want me if I were overweight, that I am absolutely certain of... but, I know she prefers me healthy. She deserves a healthy guy.

The fatty food cravings never quite quit though, sigh! :mad0228: :laugh3:

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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #6 on: March 24, 2015, 11:18:37 AM »
Congratulations on all counts. Let's give AZ a little credit.

Romantic bliss. Is there anything better? I say, yes. True friendship. :yes:
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #7 on: March 24, 2015, 11:50:25 AM »
Some of the people here over the years have been helpful, sure! :winking0008: Those people gave me the support and encouragement I needed to post about my problems online less, and get out there to actually change them. :happy0062: Instead of fussing about weight or anxiety or depression, do something to control them instead of letting them control you: lose the weight, take pro-active steps by yourself (depending on therapists never helped me through the years) to live with your anxiety yet live your life the way you want to, and do something with your life that makes you happy. That is rewarding. Now I'm healthier, happier, and occasionally I travel to places I've always wanted to see. Places I honestly thought I'd NEVER be strong enough to visit on my own. I'd resigned myself to that. Yet now i've done things I would never have thought myself capable of doing, and i'm no longer a shut in scared of the outside world. One day it hit me that life is too short. One of the positive end results is that i'm a much easier person to live with too! Don't get me wrong... I'm not an action man or anything. :laugh3: My life is pretty ordinary. But its a more ordinary life I always wanted.

If I hadn't taken any of those steps by myself I'd probably still be writing online a lot and never met my girlfriend. Thankfully she's my best friend as well as my romantic partner. :sad0126:

Coming to AZ though was certainly a good starting point! :sign0169: When I first came here I was a massive hypochondriac and I must grant, it was this place that got me over it. I haven't worried over my health in years since. Plus, I got the chance to make the acquaintance of my Dear Tina... what could be better? :wavey:

Take care,
Gen.
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #8 on: March 24, 2015, 12:00:50 PM »
Same for me, my Dear GS. Too bad I am not 50 or 60 years younger.  Girl friend would have competition but she'd win anyway. Was never anything to look at and generally dull and a bore.

So happy you are much better and happy. :happy0180:
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Re: Losing weight - and my hair!
« Reply #9 on: March 24, 2015, 12:18:34 PM »
Aw, my Dear Tina. :-* Never knew you quite felt that way! I am flattered. You're a dear lady and an even dearer friend, and the age gap has never stopped me from wanting to maintain that friendship. The things happening in my life won't impact adversely on it neither, I assure you. :sad0126: I'm not going anywhere. :action-smiley-065: Have always got time to give to you, every day! :happy0062:

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Too bad I am not 50 or 60 years younger.

Hey, come on now I'm not quite that bad! I know your true age my dear! :laugh3: 50 years chopped off is fine territory but 60, that's a bit out of my age bracket! Haha! :sprachlos020: :laugh3: I'd have had to turn you down gently because I'd be the one who is too old for you! Otherwise I'd be in big trouble, lol! :laugh:

Plenty of people would say I've always been rather a dull bore. You know what? That's their problem. :winking0008: As long as we're happy then we're good. Its probably our similarities that have made us work well as good friends over the years, Tina. Anyway, I still say the dashing and confident young man that all the girls wanted who ended up becaming your husband would have won your heart in the end! :liebe028:  :laugh3:

Regards,
Gen.





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