My boyfriend and I are ready to move in together. Right now I live 5 minutes from where I work, have lived in this area my whole life (except for during college), and absolutely LOVE it. It is a hip and more urban area and I love that I work so close to home (sometimes I'm at the office until midnight or later.) My boyfriend lives about 20 minutes away. We want to find something centrally located between our parents, which would be the exact area he is in now. I have learned to be okay with living in that area and we have been looking for over 2 months in that city.
Now, my boyfriend has always been in love with a city that is about 35 minutes from my work. I have told him REPEATEDLY that I do not want to live in this city, it is too far for me and my commute. He continues to bring up places in this area like I had never said anything about it being too far. I thought I got through to him the other day when I told him that it was JUST TOO FAR. My mom and I even looked at a place he had found there and without going inside said it would never work because of the distance. I found out today during his turn to search for apartments (I was at work) that he and his sister went to the same place in that city and "fell in love" with the apartment. He said he really really wants me to come look at it because I would love it.
I'm so exhausted of saying no to this city but he won't let it go. My anxiety is THROUGH the roof over it because I know in my heart I don't want to live there but I feel like I'm constantly in a battle over it. I feel like my opinion is being ignored and I have no idea how to handle this anymore. Any suggestions?