Today I was talking to someone....trying to give them a pep-talk, because frankly they were being a little too negative---well, the person took my pep-talk as a personal attack, and then proceeded to say back at me, "excuse me! aren't you a nervous Nellie? Don't YOU have an anxiety problem??" Which I took a big offense to----firstly, because I was trying to help the person, and second having anxiety is in a totally different category than just being a negative person.
So, I summarized it as the person must have thought I was telling them they were weak----and they also made the assumption (as a lot of people do) that anxiety is a personal weakness. In other words, they were giving me tit for tat-----and I found it extremely hurtful.
I never asked to have anxiety, I cannot control it either....so it was wrong to use it against me.