I have dated this girl for a year. Everything was good, the perfect relationship. Never argued and always got on well. Tell me she loved me, misses me when I wasn't around, Say's she would be devastated if I ever left her, and always said she felt lucky to have me. She is 26 and I am 31.
Generally this girl is a big worrier, she worries and obsesses over everything. Over the past 2/3 months I noticed she began to increasingly feel down and depressed about a work situation, getting stressed out by work, not being able to get a new job due failed interviews and seeing her friends get promotions, also getting depressed about her grandfather's failing health and being moved into an old peoples home. At the same time assuring me that it was nothing to do with me and the relationship was fine and she would never leave me. All this coincided with her leaving her family home outside London to move into London so she could be nearer to work/friends etc, in which she cried about leaving her mum.
About 1 and 1/2 months she suffered a anxiety/panic attack.. showing all the signs and symptoms.. breaking down instantly crying when meeting up with people. Feels down, feels worthless, doesn't feel like doing anything, loss of interest doing things she loved, loss of appetite and having the feeling of anxiety. Acting very out of character. (Her family have a history of depression problems)
She went to the doctors where she was prescribed anti-anxiety tablets. While she went home to recover for a couple days , there began a two week period where although she rejoined work and started to hang out with people again, she became more distant with me didn't text me much at all, became cold towards me in her texts, very quiet. She told me did it to everyone not just me.
As the two weeks rolled by I asked her three times "Have I done something wrong, isit something to do with me or the relationship"? she replied no its nothing to do with me or the relationship and don't worry."
The confusing part is that when we finally met up 2 weeks after she suffered the anxiety/panic attack, she told me she was unhappy with me and began to list things that quite frankly were very trivial and would not constitute a reason to breakup. She would question if we had things in common saying we were different, questioning the future of our relationship and silly things that annoyed her that would normally not bother her when she was happy. She told me to promise her 1 week of ***** and time to think about things. I said it's over isn't it, she said no itís not over but needs ***** and time to think.
That same night after the talk she deleted our relationship status on ***** and changed her profile picture of me and her together to just her - couldn't understand the reason for this if she said it wasn't over.
Two weeks later she finally got back to me and told me i'll always be important to her but she feels its best if she stays single for the moment and wants to be on her own, she said braking up with me was nothing to do with her anxiety, just hasn't been happy for a while. I'm left very perplexed by this. None of this makes an ounce of sense.
What i'm having trouble deciphering is, was anxiety the cause for her to act like this or does this sound like someone that was just unhappy?