I think what they are trying to say is that people should live in the moment . . .not to say that you empty your life savings and buy a mink coat . . . but sometimes, and I have done this and still do it, I worry today about something that might happen or might not happen . . . for example: I need to update my kitchen . . .i haven't even started the process yet one day I started to worry that whoever I hire would not do a good job . . . all that did was make me anxious and stop me from going out to look at different flooring . . . I don't know whether they will do a good job or not; I don't even have a list of someone to do the work . . . so I wasted all day worrying, using up energy, until I realized that I was not really able to do anything about what might happen a year from now . . . .
There is some anxiousness in life . . . I have a friend if she does not plan and I mean in detail what she will have at every meal, she worries whether or not she has all the ingredients . . .so every week, she plans out the details of every meal and I mean every meal, makes sure she has everything in the house (just in case she gets snowed in --- and this is even in summertime when we have no snow), and then anticipates if each meal will be how she planned it . . . . now this is extreme but for some reason it centers around meal planning and nothing else . . .I strongly suspect that there is a reason . . .on my part, hey, I have food in the house, I eat whenever which drives her a bit up the wall . . .she worries about meal planning, I don't.
Over the years in dealing with my anxiety, I try to be mindful of what I am doing at any given moment . . .no, as I say, I don't run out and buy a Ferrari, but I eventually am able to manage worrying abut things too far off in the future . . . I used to want to plan everything in great detail, but I spent more time planning and not living . . . .so, I think the "stop worrying" is more: put your events in perspective . . . if something does not work out as planned, will it really impact your life? Sometimes sh*( happens, you deal with it, and you move on . . . and, as for stop worrying, well, don't focus on stopping the worry as much as letting it come into your mind, assess it, and dismiss it . . .don't know if this helps . . .take care, kc