Why is it that every time I have plans to go out and do something social (only if alchohol is involved) I get major anxiety leading up to the event, so much so that I don't even feel like going... but then once I get there I am totally fine. I have only been this way for a little over a year now. The thought of drinking alcohol gives me anxiety so I rarely drink. I never used to be this way. Problem is, is my friends and family are very social and there are tons of get togethers and they always involve alcohol. I know its easy to say just go out and don't drink, which sometimes I do do, but then I feel like everyone is looking at me like what the heck is wrong with her? Or like I am mental or no fun for not even having one drink. Is this happening because I am getting older at 35? Is this happening because of my work (we deal with alcoholics/cirrhosis and those patients look awful... but I know that wouldn't happen to me as it only happens to heavy duty drinkers). I just hate the anxiety feeling that leads up to events. How can i make it go away? I have accepted the anxiety, like everytime I know i am going out i know i will be anxious until i get there and then im fine... but why do always get that way? Or better yet, since I get that way, how should i deal with it?