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Offline mhmommy

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Husband wants to leave over HA fear
« on: February 09, 2014, 11:43:38 AM »
I'm very distraught my husband is done.
feel like I'll get sick if he leaves me and my kids
even more sad than they are now by my fear.
any advice or anyone been in this situation?
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Re: Husband wants to leave over HA fear
« Reply #1 on: February 09, 2014, 12:47:19 PM »
This is something you both need to sit down and really discuss. It might even be wise to have a third person there. Maybe a therapist. A person who can talk to you both alone and then together. Maybe help you both work out the issues that is causing your husband to feel as he is. This might even show your husband how far you are willing to go to save things. I am sure the two of you have probably talked this over alone many times in the past. But having that third party there is a big bit different. Your husband gets to be heard. Which will be important to him. You can put your side across too. Then the therapist brings you both together with a better picture of what is going own in both your minds. They may make a few suggestions. Things you both may not have thought of before. Both of you have to be willing to give it a go. It is one option that a lot of people use.
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Re: Husband wants to leave over HA fear
« Reply #2 on: February 09, 2014, 01:12:03 PM »
he wants to do that but I think his mind is set.
we're going next week.
I am afraid of cancer had almost 40 msv
radiation in 6 mos and he thinks that's bit something
to be afraid or depressed about.
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Re: Husband wants to leave over HA fear
« Reply #3 on: February 09, 2014, 10:36:01 PM »
Don't let your HA sabotage your marriage. Radiation exposure does not always lead to cancer, and when it does it is usually not until decades after the exposure. Try your best not to worry. Best of luck.
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Re: Husband wants to leave over HA fear
« Reply #4 on: February 09, 2014, 10:53:33 PM »
trying to work it out. getting new therapist, meds this week, hopefully meds short term.
will see counselor next week.

thats a scary thought... scans given so easily giving people cancer and cutting their life short.
i need to give myself a break i think about it every day... its awful i feel for all of us who are
in this situation and aren't aware of the risks. should be taken A LOT more seriously by drs.
They don't always give scans because they're looking for something life threatening/emergency.
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