And lastly ..... My mother and aunt have both fully recovered from their teen anxiety which is similar to mine and haven't relapsed yet and their now in their 40s soo....
I think your mother is medication phobic, meaning she just doesn't want to take medication. Being med phobic doesn't constitute as a recovery or cure for an anxiety disorder, it just means the person won't take meds.
However you've mentioned that she's a natural health practitioner in one of your Med posts. I guess she's tried all these alternative methods to manage her anxiety disorder. If she was fully cured, she would have chosen another profession, like accounting, which doesn't involve any study in anxiety. My assumption for most people in a healing profession is that they have also have a very similiar health condition. Due to that health condition, it motivates their desire to be in that profession to maintain their own health condition, like anxiety. If they felt cured, they would leave the profession, and choose something else.
I know I don't know your mother, and I don't mean to be critical about her. I've just noticed that people in health professions always have health conditions like their patients.
For example, you'll note the average accountant's doesn't really have high anxiety concerns, as does a natural health provider. That accountant doesn't keep up with all these methods to control their anxiety, like reading books or going to workshops, because they're probably not anxious. That's because a typical accountant doesn't have a brain problem, so they don't need medication or alternative therapy to alleviate it. They just focus on numbers without worrying about mental health, because there is no problem with their brain.
For your grandmother, hasn't she bee on medication to control her anxiety?
And .... when I say "under control," I am saying the medication keeps my anxiety disorder under control, or specifically it helps my brain recuperate itself, since my brain doesn't produce enough brain cells to support my hippocampus properly. So like a diabetic injects insulin prior to eating, I take medication for my brain, to control it's abnormal development in the hippocampus, which if not properly medicated, produces prolonged anxiety.