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Ooops! I did it again!
« on: January 16, 2014, 04:48:33 PM »
So, my last post was titled 'Moments of 'normal'', and in that post I spoke of how great I've been doing managing my anxiety and it's symptoms, which I am doing very, very well taming the lion, so to speak :)

But I seem to have an issue with getting myself all worked up and stressed with having a lot to do in a little bit of time. This happened to me a few weeks ago, I stretched myself too thin by taking on too much.

Well, ooops I did it again! My morning are pretty busy with exercise, taking the dog out, taking my Dad to work, having breakfast, bathing, and trying to get lunch made for my husband--which I cook from scratch most days. All this gets done in 3 hours. Then I had to go get gas, go to the post office, go to the grocery store, quick so I could get back home to...do the dishes from lunch, take the dog out again, get clothes out the dryer so I could put the ones in the washer in to dry, all in time to cook yet again for dinner.

Before I even left the house my muscle tension in my back and shoulders began it's relentless vice grip. Then on the drive to the store I felt like I could not breathe at all, which is a very scary feeling. I also got somewhat queasy. Every time I get those miserable physical symptoms I begin having the catastrophic images of what the most worst case scenario would be should I collapse in the store from not being able to breathe.

Yet, once again I was able to stop those thoughts fairly quickly. I would say the not being able to breathe incident lasted driving from one block to the next, which was pretty fast--although it seemed like an eternity. I sucked up any residual fear that was left and escorted myself into the grocery store like a big girl.

Does anyone have any advice on why I get so worked up to the point of anxiety and panic? I seem to also have a feeling of being overwhelmed. Do you think I should just wake up earlier so I can fit it all in better, and not feel rushed or short on time?

Thank You so much! :)
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Re: Ooops! I did it again!
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2014, 06:01:09 PM »
Hi CarrieAnn...

When I got to the end of your post, what popped into my head was something I learned many years ago.  That was the definition of insanity.  Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result or outcome.

With this bout of anxiety, panic attacks, and depression, I am trying to look at every aspect of my life, and make changes to protect my mental health.  It's real easy to say, "Hey, I need to exercise more!", and then do it.  Simple to cook a healthier meal.  Piece of cake to meditate for 20 minutes, everyday.  But what about the real change in me.  What about changing the way that I do things day in and day out.  To really reduce my stress, I need to find those avenues of change, and then develop them.  And then be open to change them again and again, over and over...

No, I don't think that you should get up earlier.  I think that when you have a day with to much on your plate, you look at what can be eliminated or at least changed.  Your husband shouldn't go without lunch, but consider having him fend for himself when time is tight.  That means no lunch to prepare, and no dishes to do.  And you might want to look at your schedule the night before.  That way if things are tight for time, you can talk to your husband and dad about the plans being made, and they can be apart of the solution.

Thank-you so much for this post, CarrieAnn!  You are really giving me food for thought that I'm still not taking my own advise seriously.  I need to make those changes that I just spoke about.

As always my friend, the best to you, CarrieAnn!...  Chuck :yes:
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Re: Ooops! I did it again!
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2014, 08:56:30 PM »
Thank You Chuck! I go above and beyond at times, especially for lunch....I suppose a cold sandwich every now and then will help take the pressure off.

I find that I do so much for others, but I get lost in the process. I went back to school when I was 32---it was one of the best things I ever did! But life got in the way....taking care of my Mom was more of a priority, so I only made it half way toward my degree. I hope to go back some day to finish what I started, and maybe it will help me get away from all this seriousness.

I talked to my sister tonight...her advice was similar to yours---try not to do so much in a day, make short lists of what to do each day, and don't sweat the small stuff :)
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Re: Ooops! I did it again!
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2014, 10:38:45 PM »
You sound like a busy person. I have so much work to do in this area as well. I currently can't function if I have a list of things that I "have" to do. I have to get into my activities naturally. It's horrible.

Something I need to do, which may help you: make short lists of things to do. Short lists are supposed to get the chores to where they don't overwhelm as easily.

Also, find something that you like to listen to while getting stuff done so you can trick your mind into thinking "this is me time." You say that you have a degree to get back to someday. Find some podcasts that are in the area of your degree that will stimulate your mind. Don't forget relaxing stuff as well, like music.

Good luck, Dan
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Re: Ooops! I did it again!
« Reply #4 on: January 17, 2014, 12:14:46 PM »
Thank You Dan :) Yes, today I'm keeping my list very short...I'm focusing on doing some over-due cleaning in my kitchen. My freezer needs to be cleaned out and organized, and my pantry needs a good tossing of outdated things, and that's all I'm going to focus on. I'm not going out of the house today...the weather is frigid. The only other things I'll probably do is a load of laundry, and cook dinner.

I'm a big music lover! I keep a radio in the kitchen, tuned to classic rock--my favorite! Music does help pass the doldrums of chores more pleasantly, I agree!
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Re: Ooops! I did it again!
« Reply #5 on: January 17, 2014, 12:57:28 PM »
Hi.You mentioned the GAD board in a message to me so I thought I would check it out.

I   wondered if part of the reason you start to tense up whilst doing your day to day task is maybe you are trying to achieve multiple things in a short period of time instead of maybe spacing them out across the day.Do you take brakes between each activity.In the past I use to try to get every thing done as quickly as possible to get it over with so I could then return to the safety of home.I have worked on not trying to do too much too quickly.Maybe also you worry about getting everything done and not letting down your dogs ,members of the family who you need to do things for during the day.

Maybe the feelings of being overwhelmed is your mind telling you its having too much to handle in a short period of time.

Thats just one possibility which may or may not be accurate.
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Re: Ooops! I did it again!
« Reply #6 on: January 17, 2014, 01:48:41 PM »
Hi Ransford, yes I think that is what is causing my stress--too much in too little time. I don't know why I do that--stretch myself so thin, and then it throws me into panic mode, with panic symptoms. It's something I have to work on though :)
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