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Offline BeeDot

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Re: Obsessing about death, mine and others
« Reply #20 on: January 28, 2014, 11:00:06 PM »
Billy, I am always sorry to hear of people dealing with the things I deal with, but at the same time there is a sense of relief as well.  Just knowing that the thoughts, feelings, and sensations I have are not unique to me has a very calming effect.   I always figure if someone else thinks this way too then there is nothing weird or special about me, and no, I cannot predict the future: ) 

Tinam, you're right.  Learning does take lots of effort.  I think I hold myself back in a lot of ways and I'm not quite sure why I keep up that kind of self-sabotaging behaviour.....worth investigating I suppose!
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Re: Obsessing about death, mine and others
« Reply #21 on: January 29, 2014, 08:28:32 AM »
Have an abstract which includes parts of The Tibetan Book of the Dead. Fascinating in the views toward dying, the differences between East and West. We consider it some sort of failure. We are unprepared, un-accepting, unrealistic.

There are tragic deaths, to be sure. But the vast majority are ordinary progressions of the ordinary cycle of beginnings and endings. What ever continues into perpetuity? Not even our sun. It will eventually (billions of years) run out of energy.
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Re: Obsessing about death, mine and others
« Reply #22 on: January 31, 2014, 11:05:04 PM »
It does feel good to hear of other people having these thoughts - but of course you would never wish this on your worst enemy.  My dad has panic attacks, OCD etc.. same as myself.  When he was in his 20's he was almost killed in a car accident.  Couldn't walk for over a year etc... He said he would do that over and over again if the panic, OCD would stop.  He said that this is so much worse than his accident. I almost believe it.  It consumes our lives and causes us not to enjoy the moments that are given to us and it breaks my heart. 

Just another funny one.... a few days ago my dog was following me everywhere, cuddling up to me , wouldn't leave me alone etc... which is kind of weird for her.  I decided that she was sensing I was going to die soon or I am very sick (ie cancer) because I know animals can sense that stuff lol.  My husband goes "Great, now you have the dog involved in your conspiracies."  I mean, it sounds so ridiculous but my mind believes every minute of it. Uggg....
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Re: Obsessing about death, mine and others
« Reply #23 on: February 01, 2014, 11:54:17 AM »
Hahaha I have been there with my dogs.  We've had dogs all while I was growing up, but (Thankfully) I didn't start getting freaked out by them until after I'd moved out.  So, now I only have to put up with it when I visit my parents.  However, I really want a dog someday and don't want to always be scared of them.

If it makes you feel better, I think dogs can sense when we are upset or hurting.  Both times I've had surgery, my dog has cuddled me.  Perhaps your dog is picking up on a heightened level of your anxiety and is trying to comfort  you: )
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Re: Obsessing about death, mine and others
« Reply #24 on: February 01, 2014, 11:34:52 PM »
Oh I like that idea.  See, there is always another way to look at things...sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else - Thanks :)
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