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Offline Mr.John

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HA and fear of HIV
« on: April 29, 2013, 07:25:43 PM »
About 10 weeks ago I was possibly exposed to HIV.. Having done this is the most stupid thing I've ever done in my life and I'm pretty sure I won't even consider it again.. In the first few weeks I was worried about contracting herpes.. I looked the symptoms in google and it seems that I didn't get any.. I stopped thinking about it for few weeks until two weeks ago, I had slight abdominal pain.. Looking for the symptoms of STDs in google, Now I think I contracted HIV.. The symptoms of primary HIV usually appear 2-6 weeks after exposure but I started having them 7 weeks later.. A week after those pains I got 3 pimples in my armpit which I thought were swollen lymph modes but they turned out to be pimples.. This week I got a pimple in the same spot & I saw a doctor & he told me it is a pimple but its head is inside so that's why it looks like a swollen lymph node.. I still don't know why am I getting them this time because I've never had any of these before.. My anxiety rises high until the point of shaking and them I calm down for a few days.. I then get anxiety again after few days.. Now I keep checking for swollen lymph nodes in my neck and I suspected one near my adam's apple and my anxiety rose again.. I can't help it.. When I try to sleep at night I always feel I'm gonna vomit and I think I would but I just try to stop it.. I don't know if this is because of a health problem or just anxiety, but it's taking over me because I think it's due to HIV..
If I got HIV I won't get the job I've always wanted since my childhood.. They don't allow HIV+. So even considering living with it makes me even more anxious.. I want to go get tested but am 17 & I live in a religious area so I'm really nervous about going to a doctor asking for an HIV test.. I'm even more nervous about the results.. What do I have to do ?
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Offline Slangevar

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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #1 on: April 29, 2013, 09:35:17 PM »
How were you "possibly exposed?"  And why do you think your partner has HIV?  It's hard to say what your chances are without knowing the specifics, but given that you live in a religious area, you're 17 and you probably don't do IV drugs, I'd say your chances of picking up HIV are VERY low. Especially if it was sexual contact with a female... women are much more likely than men to pick up HIV from heterosexual sex.

Here is the bad news: You can't test for another 14 weeks. 97% of HIV antibodies show up within 3 months of exposure, but if you have HA, you will want to wait until there is 100% chance of the antibodies appearing on the test.

When you are ready to test, you don't have to go to your doctor... there are a variety of TOTALLY ANONYMOUS options. In the U.S., I believe Planned Parenthood gives anonymous HIV tests, as well as many thrift stores, mobile clinics and free clinics. You can also order an oral HIV test from Amazon for $40 - http://www.amazon.com/Completely-Private-yourself-facilities-involved/dp/B00AOOXVFS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1367285143&sr=8-1&keywords=oraquick

In the meantime, whatever you do, do NOT use symptoms as a gauge of your HIV exposure... you will absolutely be wrong. There are a million HIV "symptoms" and all of them can be explained by benign causes. If you start Googling HIV symptoms and looking for them, you will find them and you will have a total meltdown. (I know because MANY of us have done it. I was absolutely convinced I had it because of "the symptoms" and I was fine.) 

Hang in there. Sorry you have to wait so long to test, but better safe than sorry.
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Offline Mr.John

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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #2 on: April 30, 2013, 01:52:43 PM »
Thanks for your reply.. The way I think I was possibly exposed to HIV was through a prostitute... As bad as it sounds.. I've been feeling sick for the last few days.. I feel like I' ill and it's not just mentally.. It's phiscally as well.. I don't know if mental issues can turn into real physical issues.. I feel I need to vomit whenever I go to sleep.. & I feel painin my muscles which is one of the symptoms I had already looked up of primary HIV
God help me..
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Offline Slangevar

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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #3 on: April 30, 2013, 04:18:40 PM »
Hoo boy... not what I expected.  Well, your chance of picking something up still depends upon a few factors: 

1) Condom use. Many prostitutes insist on their clients wearing a condom. If you did, you're probably going to be fine (even if it broke).

2) The kind of prostitute. Drug-addicted, cheap prostitutes are more likely to be infected than higher-class, non-drug-addicted escorts.

3) What you did with them. Kissing: Zero chance of transmission unless you both had open, bleeding mouth sores. Blow job: Again, almost zero chance unless they happened to scrape you AND had an open, bleeding mouth sore. (Saliva doesn't carry enough of the virus to infect easily).  Vaginal sex: The risk goes up, but again, unless you have a sore on your hoo-hoo, you're probably going to be fine.  Anal sex: This carries the highest risk, whether it's with a male or female.

I know it's going to be hard to sit with this for 14 more weeks... any chance you can call the prostitute and ask if they've been tested?  This is a bizarre idea, but you could even "hire" the prostitute again for an hour and get them tested.

In the meantime, seriously - stop looking for symptoms. Anxiety can absolutely cause all sorts of genuine physical symptoms. And HIV is impossible (even for a doctor) to diagnose based on symptoms.

One final thought: Until you are able to get tested (and I still suspect you'll be okay), do not have unprotected sex (oral, anal or vaginal) with anyone. Kissing is fine, but on the off, off chance that you did pick something up, you need to protect your partner by doing the right thing.
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #4 on: May 01, 2013, 12:06:40 PM »
We used a condom but she got it out of a box full of condoms ( they are sealed but I'm still worried if they are cheap ones or not )

We had unprotected oral and protected vaginal..
I called her already and asked her about her status and she told me that she had recently got checked but due to my anxiety, I don't believe her..

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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #5 on: May 01, 2013, 08:19:36 PM »
Hey man I just had this fear recently as we'll. statistically even without a condom it's a 1 in 300 chance. If you need to calm your fears go get a ora quick test from Walgreens or cvs 20 mins and you'll have your results. Your odds are very low if you used a condom if she even had hiv. And oral sex is very low transmission as well
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #6 on: May 06, 2013, 08:29:14 AM »
Hello guys, My condition improved during the last few days until today yesterday when I had this weird feeling in my mouth, it feels that the area under my tongue is numb but when I check by touching it it feels normal.. I also have to move my tongue in a specific way to swallow my saliva.. I also feel that my left hand is totally numb when resting it and in reality it's not.. I feel like it's hard to move my hand and it feels heavy.. But I can still move it normally.. One of the acute HIV symptoms is neurological... I looked them up and the website stated that there are some neruological symptoms which could be ( aseptic meningitis, radiculitis, myelitis, cranial nerve palsies) I don't want to look them up so I don't worry about them if they turned out to be other than what I described above.. Can you please check those conditions and their symptoms and see if my symtpoms are related to one of them ?
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #7 on: May 06, 2013, 12:23:20 PM »
Since you hired her, I'm assuming she gave oral to you?  If that's the case, you're going to be fine... it's almost impossible for someone to give a man HIV during oral sex, and you used protection during sex. You're going to be fine. Good to get tested in 14 weeks, but until then, you should stop worrying. You have almost no chance of picking it up.

By the way, even if you did have it, you wouldn't have enough of the virus in your system to cause neurological problems. What you're experiencing is being caused by anxiety (and maybe guilt).  Deal with those and you'll feel a lot better.
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #8 on: May 06, 2013, 01:24:17 PM »
But you didn't answer my question.. Are the symptoms I mentioned similar to the infections I mentioned ?
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #9 on: May 06, 2013, 02:22:51 PM »
The symptoms you mentioned are things that a lot of other people on this forum have posted about in the past. So far, none of them have been diagnosed with a neurological condition... it was anxiety. Anxiety can cause some amazing symptoms.

Again, you would need to have progressed very far in the HIV infection cycle to have neurological complications. That is not what's happening to you.
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #10 on: May 06, 2013, 04:20:22 PM »
I understand exactly how scary it is to be convinced you have contracted HIV. From a young age we are given frightening information about it and we, as people with anxiety, latch on to the worst case scenarios and look for every clue in our body to confirm what we are sure is true. We will then go ang google these sympoms (symptom checking websites should be banned!)

I'd be very very surprised if it turned out that you had HIV. This obsession has plagued me for years, yet, numerous tests have shown that i do not have it. It is so easy to doubt the tests but they are highly accurate.

Mental issues can absolutely manifest themselves as physical complaints. Stress and worry can make you feel sick, dizzy, sore, etc.

You will be ok. Take care x
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #11 on: May 22, 2014, 03:42:37 PM »
You ever get tested Mr. John?!
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #12 on: May 22, 2014, 07:21:32 PM »
You will always have this fear until you get tested. Also, get tested for hep B too and stop having sex with hookers...
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #13 on: May 22, 2014, 11:26:17 PM »
There is a great book called "Phantom Illness" that you should get. It's about a news writer who realizes she is a hypochondriac and did research on the condition with a physician. A great book and a good read (at least for those with Hypochondria). It has a quote that I just can't remember exactly. It's something like Aids was made for Hypochondriacs, not literally of course but meaning it is such an all inclusive disease that it can affect any part of your body. We are all finished.  It is tailor made for all of us.

Tell me. Who doesn't feel something at least once a day? A person who doesn't suffer from this Hypochondria doesn't give it a second thought, but we become obsessed with the symptom or sign.  So whenever any sign or symptom pops up, Hypochondriacs now use the computer to look up AIDS in your case, other serious diseases for others, and inevitably, one of the symptoms or signs, that you probably don't have, will be in there. Then your heart pounds, you start sweating, and you say to yourself you definitely have it. I have OCD and the worst part of my OCD is Hypochondria. I am 55 years old and have been a Hypochondriac since the age of 14. I am a professional Hypochondriac.

A few things I am going to tell you that I would really like you to concentrate on.

Unfortunately, at least to my knowledge, Hypochondria ONLY responds to medication.  From what I have read, things like Behavioral therapy, etc, are not effective.

I'm not sure if this is possible without taking medication, BUT NEVER EVER LOOK UP ANY DISEASE ON THE INTERNET OR A BOOK.  You will always find something that leads to something else that will lead you to something else until you finally have some serious disease.  What I am saying is common Knowledge I know that, but I feel it is important to let you know.

You have to see a Psychiatrist because they are the only people in the Psychology profession, that can write for medication.

Now I know you are at the age where you Hormones are off the wall, but most Hypochondriacs, fear something like AIDS if they, for example, just come in contact (Skin to skin-like hands) with someone who to them, looks gay.  And Gay to most Hypochondriacs equals HIV. I have no idea why you would go to a prostitute of that kind or any for that matter.  It's like having a severe allergy to peanuts and buying  a container of peanuts and start wolfing them down.  We don't live in the same world as we did 40 years ago.

You do know why you are focusing on this specific disease. The answer is very typical for people like us. Why do you fear you have HIV. You said it yourself.  It will stop you from getting the job that you have always wanted since childhood. Not any other disease are you concerned with at this moment because HIV is the road block to your happiness.

In your specific case, I feel that "Slangevar" did a great job of putting everything in perspective.

Try sitting down and do some serious soul searching.  Try to understand who you are.  What things will eventually cause you sever anxiety.  Those types of things.  If you live with your family, and I don't know your situation, ask them for help.  That's what most families are there for.  To be there for one another

I wish you all the best. Everything should turn out well.  Learn a lesson from this.  They say a wise man thinks ahead.  You should live a good, long, healthy life, always trying to make the right decisions.

Good luck!
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Re: HA and fear of HIV
« Reply #14 on: May 23, 2014, 07:49:48 AM »
Planned Parenthood and other Health Centers can give a rapid 20-min HIV test, so if you go in and get tested, you'll know within 20 min. If not, there is a blood test but it takes about 2 weeks (I only know because I had to get tested for every STD possible when I was pregnant as that's standard practice here in NY)

I think your best bet is to get tested, or you will just continue to google and post on here about "symptoms" that nobody can answer for you since you haven't gotten tested for the thing you "think" you have.
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