You have to wake up every morning and declare war on OCD until it is in remission. It is just like having diabetes, high blood pressure, etc. You need to have a warrior mentality. Meds (if you don't mind taking them) will arm you with strength to carry out your tactics (CBT, therapy, exercise) to kick its ass. You have suffered long enough, it's time to bury this stuff for awhile.
I have been battling self harm OCD for seven months. Before that two bad bouts of health anxiety in my life that lasted about a year each. Yet, I'm happily married, successful and in great physical health for being 49 years old. Most people would kill to have my life. But OCD doesn't spare anybody that is prone to it.
PM me if you want to discuss further. Or have your husband PM me if he wants to hear how my wife deals with me.