Sorry for sounding so self-pitying but just as a background, despite my anxiety (something a mix of GAD and OCD) I'm a really kind person. Everyone who knows me, even people who don't like me, would NEVER say I was mean. Maybe a little snippy at times when I'm in a bad mood, but I'm really nice, friendly, outgoign (I don't have social anxiety) and I always compliment people, say nice things to them, etc. I've also been told I'm really funny and interesting, at least by people who share my hobbies/interests.
But I feel like the only fights I EVER get into with ANYONE- whether it be my husband, my mom, or even strangers on the Internet- boils down to my anxiety. For example, I posted on another sub (not AZ) about an issue I was having with worrying about a party I was throwing for a friend. I acknowledged that my fears were a little irrational, and even told people that I had anxiety, but everyone called me immature, a bitch, a brat, a child, etc. Frankly, I don't see the connection between anxiety and immaturity since I'm far more anxious as an adult than I was as a kid!
Why does anxiety get people so angry? It doesn't seek to offend anyone- at worst I'd think people would just shake their heads and think, "Wow, this chick is mental!" but would ultimately sympathize or at least have pity/neutrality. But people actually get ANGRY and HATEFUL- sometimes even people I love. I've never once insulted or demeaned my husband, but the fights we have always arise from me being anxious about something. I don't understand how on earth that can make a person angry! Irritated maybe, but angry? hateful? I don't get it!