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Constant reassurance?
« on: August 23, 2014, 05:58:23 PM »
Hello guys

My anxiety seems to have flared up very severely. I keep needing reassurance from my girlfriend that she loves me/ wants to be with me. I get extremely stressed and anxious again minutes after she has reassured me!

Help!

Anyone else have/had this?
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Re: Constant reassurance?
« Reply #1 on: August 23, 2014, 06:25:25 PM »
I can relate.  I ask my husband to tell me he loves me all the time.  I am sure he gets annoyed having to tell me all the time.  I think half the time I am not even wondering if he loves me.  I know that he does.  Sometimes it is when I don't like myself very much that I want him to say that he loves me - like his loving me will counteract the feelings I have about myself.  Of course it doesn't work.  I am trying to stop asking him so much and to start to be kinder to myself.  I tend to be really self critical.  Anyway, I hope you can find some peace with this. 
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Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.  1 Peter 5:7

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Re: Constant reassurance?
« Reply #2 on: August 23, 2014, 06:53:54 PM »
Hi hopeful

I know what you mean about being unkind to yourself it drives me crazy! I just want to be able to stop because i know it will drive her away.

Thanks for your reply and I welcome any more responses :)
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Re: Constant reassurance?
« Reply #3 on: August 24, 2014, 02:12:56 AM »
 I know exactly what you mean. I'm like this with my mother and sister, especially my sister. I always need to know they love me and are pleased with me, as selfish as it may sound. I worry a lot that my sister doesn't really love me . Once she scolded me about something and I felt guilty and ashamed and was certain she hated me for a whole week, while she was over it quickly. So, I can definitely relate.
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Re: Constant reassurance?
« Reply #4 on: August 24, 2014, 11:45:55 PM »
I used to do this with my ex girlfriend. It eventually would upset her because she thought I didn't believe her. I felt like I couldn't help it. Eventually it would just happen again. I didn't know how to stop :(
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