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How to get by with the watching and waiting approach..
« on: August 20, 2014, 02:22:36 PM »
I have a small mole, its brown but slightly (very slightly) raised. Its not even close as big as a pencil eraser and the colours are very close all over. The borders aren't perfectly symmetrical but they are close...as in it doesn't look obvious if you just look at it randomly.
Went to the doctor yesterday, said its totally fine and she didn't want to refer me to a dermatologist and to come back if it changes a bunch or anything but that she doubts it will.
Well..I've had it for around a year I would assume and it always looked the same (I could have had it longer, its at an area I don't look at often). Now ever since I started worrying about it which is only a few days ago, I've been pressing on it, hoping it doesn't hurt, etc. It doesn't seem to but that side (from my hip to my shoulder) is sore but that is because I have been poking and prodding it for multiple reasons.
I wish I could just take it off and get it over with but since she doesn't think its serious, she doesn't want to refer me and even if she does and it hasn't changed a bunch or anything, it could take months or a year to see a dermatologist because she said they take the serious people first. It makes sense but with hypochondria, this is bad. I already foresee myself checking it everyday and poking and prodding it and I've already started doing so.
I'm from Canada so I can't see a dermatologist unless I get a referral and like I said, they have a long waiting list for people who want to see them who aren't in a scary situation.

I still am scared..and idk what to do. Should I try going to a walk in clinic and see i they will give me a referral? is it true that as long as it doesn't change drastically (and it hasn't) that it is fine?
I know my mother has a lot of moles and so does her entire side of the family and they're always benign..so maybe its hereditary.
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Re: How to get by with the watching and waiting approach..
« Reply #1 on: August 20, 2014, 03:02:23 PM »
I still am scared..and idk what to do. Should I try going to a walk in clinic and see i they will give me a referral? is it true that as long as it doesn't change drastically (and it hasn't) that it is fine?
I know my mother has a lot of moles and so does her entire side of the family and they're always benign..so maybe its hereditary.

Moles are fine. There is very little danger in moles themselves and as you said yourself, your mole is typical of a non cancerous normal mole. If it changes, you will notice. Its not a small change its fairly obvious. It darkens, raises and becomes a weird ass shape.
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Re: How to get by with the watching and waiting approach..
« Reply #2 on: August 20, 2014, 03:22:04 PM »
Thank you :) I know deep down that you're right but I still tend to worry...I wish I could get a referral easier but I guess if it changes like you said, then they'll give it to me faster.
I need to stop touching it..because I'm making the entire area sore.
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Re: How to get by with the watching and waiting approach..
« Reply #3 on: August 20, 2014, 03:38:03 PM »
Hello again. I had a lingering worry about a mole on my back in which I had a doctor look at and his response was "it doesn't look sinister - just keep an eye on it every month and come back if it changes). Of course, it had taken me weeks to finally let the fear go. And I do occasionally check it without worrying. I just have a quick glance and then be done with it.

You will eventually worry less about it the more that time passes by and it hasn't changed. However, if you keep checking it, it will become harder for you to recognise a change since you are checking it every minute or so. I know it is hard just waiting and watching (especially when you are in fear). But remember that the worry isn't doing anything for you other than cause you stress.
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Re: How to get by with the watching and waiting approach..
« Reply #4 on: August 20, 2014, 03:53:09 PM »
Thank you again venomsoar. You're totally right about that..I believe I am doing more harm than good by touching it. Like I said, the entire side is sore now because of poking and prodding for one reason or another.
I hope that its true that in time I'll learn to live with it. I did for as long as I remember than randomly the last few days I have worried about it..ugh
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Re: How to get by with the watching and waiting approach..
« Reply #5 on: August 20, 2014, 04:30:51 PM »
No no no and no, you don't need to go to another doctor about this, the more you prod and poke the worse you will feel, you will make the mole sore. I looked at your photos of the mole and I wouldn't of even gone to the doc about it personally. I had a mole once and the doc referred me to a derm. He took one look and said your fine and sent me on my way, seeing a specialist doesn't mean they will take it off. Please don't let this consume your mind, toe fine Marie :)
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Re: How to get by with the watching and waiting approach..
« Reply #6 on: August 20, 2014, 06:27:33 PM »
Thanks so much Chloe. I'm going to try hard to get past this fear especially..
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