sounds like a LOT of pros.
You know hubs and I married in TX. right after, we left my family and moved to NJ. then 5yrs later it was Louisiana. 10yrs later back up north to NY. we've been here 8yrs come 8/1. What I LOVE about the north is the climate. It is so fantastic to have REAL seasons. Odd as it sounds I dislike spring most here. Most of it is 40's and rain, lol. as far as snow goes, well, yep, you will have a learning curve.
but it isn't rocket science, lol. You just accelerate more slowly and decelerate more slowly. and you don't follow other cars too closely. For the most part salted roads make things much easier to drive on. I live in Buffalo area. In 8 yrs there have been maybe 3x, it was hard for me to get from point a to point b. and those times were DURING heavy snow storms.
I know it is great to be around family. However there is nothing more fantastic than having real experience living somewhere else. Peeps get a much broader view of life when they live in different places. Visiting really doesn't give you the same flavor.
My suggestion to you is check out school districts. most real estate apps show quality of schools on them. when you find a couple of districts that look good, then go onto the websites and look around a bit more. When we move, I choose 2 or 3 school districts that look good, then I only look at homes that go in those districts.
It sounds like you have some great plans. Minus the cancer stuff
all of that sort of thinking is CLASSIC hypo cover. it is your mind trying to cover the real stuff--the move and all that that entails---with health stuff. for some ridiculous reason we hypos think it is easier to deal with dying than moving (or whatever other stress we don't really want to deal with
this really will be a great opportunity for you and your family. Yep, it will be weird at first. but give yourself some credit. you are stronger than you think you are. if you give yourself this chance, I am betting you will deal with this fabulously and come out smelling like a rose