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fake it until you make it
« on: June 25, 2014, 07:33:15 PM »
My first therapist told me this when I told her about my social anxiety. I was thinking could this work for anxiety in general? Just believing that you are confident and happy and that everything is okay. Of course you have to exercise and go out more  but could that change your thought process and help get rid of anxiety? I've always wanted to be this person that was calm and friendly and everyone looked up to but my anxiety shut off all of those wants. If that did work, how long do you think until you start to notice change? I've done something like this once and people did notice a change but whenever I hit a bump, it would bring me back to square one because I couldn't take the failure. Any thoughts?
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2014, 01:07:10 AM »
No one, huh?
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2014, 01:35:05 AM »
I've tried the fake it til you make it, myself. It's worked sometimes, but not lately. Perhaps because we are feeling so many physical symptoms, they are hard to ignore, and it's hard to fake it. If it were that easy, we wouldn't have anxiety, right?

When my anxiety was mostly under control, yes, faking that I might be apprehensive would work. But not when I'm feeling anxious constantly.  :action-smiley-065:
Remember, those bumps in the road ....try not to think of them as failure. Failure, to me, is giving up and it doesn't seem that you're giving up. Be gentle to yourself.
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #3 on: June 26, 2014, 01:37:19 AM »
Yeah that makes sense. I know it won't take your actual symptoms away but I thought maybe it would change how to think about them. Idk. I haven't tried yet.
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #4 on: June 26, 2014, 01:40:53 AM »
I think the worst thing we can do is try to fight the feeling. For me, it only makes it more intense. I've been trying some exposure therapy lately, allowing myself to feel that uncomfortable feeling or feelings until they pass. Def. not easy! But there is a sense of accomplishment when it passes, and I haven't run back to my comfort zone.

See my post about GAD turning to Agoraphobia. I'd like your input if you can relate.
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #5 on: June 26, 2014, 10:01:41 AM »
In my experience "fake it till you mail it has it's purpose, but does not aid recovery or healing. To me it's like treading water, helping hold steady until the storm passes. So again it's been useful to some degree but it is not what moves me forward. Exercise, journaling, medication, therapy.... Those are all components I need to "make it"
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #6 on: June 27, 2014, 08:42:21 AM »
I've been faking it for a long time, pretending I was fine etc, but it just makes things worse as you're not actually dealing with the issues in hand, just my personal view x
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #7 on: June 27, 2014, 11:25:21 AM »
Yup, I am currently trying to "fake it until I make it"

Unfortunately for me I feel its something I have to do because for so long I've hid from what causes my anxieties and then that causes me anxiety.  I am afraid of moving forward and afraid of going back to my safety zone.  So thats why I feel like I have to fake it till I make it  ::)  Its tough sometimes (woke up feeling like crap this morning) but sometimes I feel real hopeful and happy and thats what keeps me going.
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #8 on: June 27, 2014, 01:47:17 PM »
But can't you say the same for distraction techniques and things that redirect the mind away from anxiety? Its just avoiding until you feel better, not really addressing issues. I thought that what helps is accepting. I've been exercising and been distracted a lot and when a negative thoughts comes up, I just accept it and move on. I've also been trying to 'fake it until I make it' and I've been feeling way better. Not all gone but I didn't think it would go away overnight. Fingers crossed. Just my thoughts though.
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Re: fake it until you make it
« Reply #9 on: June 27, 2014, 04:22:20 PM »
I have been trying that today, and sometimes it is working and others i have an episode here and there. Not a bad idea to try but if the anxiety is too over powering at a certain time it can be hard to do that
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