Hello my friends,
I am in the process of considering offering anxiety coaching in my area. So I thought I would sit down and write out my thoughts on what has worked for me. I am not healed. I am not perfect. But I can and do enjoy my life and live it as I want to. So I would like to help others to do the same. I would appreciate any input or thoughts about what I have written. Suggestions are welcome.
STEPS NECESSARY TO FIND PEACE WITH ANXIETY OR PTSD
The following steps are part of an ongoing dance that is your own. So one of these ideaís may be important as a first step, while other steps may seem impossible at this time. It is completely individual. I would suggest you start with the first step though, as the basis to provide perspective on everything else.
1. RESPECT THE JOURNEY and PROCESS
You are here for a reason
i. It may be because of what happened to you
ii. It may be genetics
iii. It may be upbringing
iv. It may be lack of understanding or education
Peace is found in respecting the process
i. You are here; you have to walk it through. Itís your choice on how you approach the walk and the journey.
It is not your choice how you feel.
It is not your choice to be here.
It is not your choice what you may even be thinking
Your choice is in how you will approach it.
How you will walk it through,
or even if you will attempt to change the process of the journey
Respect yourself, and the others in your life
This will bring you profound peace on a deep level. Live with integrity.
Look for love in whatever is around you
i. Even in colours
iii. Flowers, snow, sunlight
Family/friends who donít judge or seek to fix
(If they do, it is very likely because they feel helpless)
One special friend or mentor you can call
Likely someone who has been through it
Strive for half an hour every day.
It does not have to be all together
Fifteen minutes walk to store
Ten minutes dancing
Five minutes yoga
Whatever makes you feel a bit more alive
Get into a green space every day
Enjoy moving your body
v. Walk with headphones
Re-schedule your sleep patterns - This is incredibly important
Practice sleep hygiene
i. No electronic devices at least 2 hours before bed
ii. Gentle stretches
iii.Some people use calcium
iv. Donít nap during day
v. Read a gentle book before bed or practice mindfulness
vi. If you wake up, donít stress about it.
Limit large amounts of caffeine, especially after 3pm
Try to eliminate sugar as much as possible
Get enough protein
GI diet is excellent for blood sugar levels and proper hormonal balance
Get your oils. Great for your brain
6. DEAL WITH NEUROLOGICAL PROCESSES
You likely wonít change things overnight and your brain is actually likely permanently changed
but everything does that to us.
i. Rapid Eye Movement Therapy
i. Behavioural Modification
SHAME AND VULNERABILITY
NO ONE asks to get anxiety or PTSD
NO ONE deserves it
You would relax if you could
It is so healthy to cry
Put on a sad movie if it helps you to cry and release
Irritability is real and understandable.
Learn a proactive strategy for it
Fear of vulnerability and taking things personally is absolutely understandable
but also likely unfair to the other person.
Learn honest and respectful communication
Conflict is normal and natural
Donít avoid it
Donít heighten it
Donít be afraid of it
Learn to talk and learn to listen
It is so hard not to react. Try to step away for a time.
7. LEARN TO DEAL WITH PANIC ATTACKS
More than ĺ of all people who experience panic become agoraphobic to some degree
i. Do everything you can to avoid this
ii. If you are agoraphobic get help to slowly start to get out of the house again
This is a slow process and takes time
It is ABSOLUTELY DO-ABLE
iii. Engage a committed friend, hire a coach, have your phone on you so that you can talk while you take that short trip
Going to the mailbox is a HUGE achievement by the way
Having a cry in a mall bathroom is a perfectly acceptable way to NOT run away
Panic cannot hurt you
Panic will pass
You can breathe your way through panic.
Always have someone you can call
Breathing properly during panic is a skill
Panic is often causes by hyper-ventilation believe it or not
The adrenaline kicks in and all it takes is one extra breathe a minute over a period of time to create a panic attack
Breathing and a bit of time are what is necessary
Panic is often telling you something about what is going on in your life
It is often your barometer so to speak
8. REVEL AND ENJOY THE MOMENTS OF LIGHTNESS
They may be few and in between right now, but they are HOPE
i. Life can and will get better
ii. Life isnít all negative, hopeless of frightening. It is a mix.
iii. Moments of lightness are healing
Enjoy and cherish them
9. HAVE A PURPOSE
Maybe its to get out of the house
Maybe its to learn to manage panic
Maybe its to go to school
Maybe its too get a good nights sleep
Maybe its to change your world one step at a time
Maybe its to take your child to the park, walk your dog, go to a movie, go to school, help someone else on their journey