Well I learned about TEA (Thinking Error Analysis) Forms on this forum and it has helped many people including myself. See this for more info (http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/anxiety-and-positive-thinking-and-choices/news/view/1478155
). I'd suggest you do this for each of your concerns.
I'll do a TEA Form on one of your worries so you get the idea. I have 4 kids and I have been divorced, I also only saw my dad on the summers when I grew up, so I know allot about what you are going through : )
What if she cries the whole time for me
Jumping to conclusions, extreme thinking, reality filter, ignoring the positive
She will probably cry at times, but this will give her Dad the chance to learn to be a father.
Its highly likely that most of the time she will be doing daily routine things like having breakfast, watching tv, etc.
She will most likely have some other good times and will probably make some important memories with her dad.
Its most likely Dad will take care of things mostly well, and yes, make a few mistakes. Buts its ok and part of being a father.
On the positive side, Dad wants to see his daughter and this will give her the chance to get to know him and be more comfortable with him.
Also, I have been through a bitter divorce and I can tell you that offering forgiveness and good will, especially when it is not reciprocated, is always the way to long-term peace in a divorced family... but most importantly in yourself. I eventually won over my ex with kindness, and have acted as peacekeeper for 10 years... the kids come first.
I hope that helps : )