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Hypochondria is ruining my relationships and here is why

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Offline steve34

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Hypochondria is ruining my relationships and here is why
« on: May 06, 2014, 04:18:46 PM »
Hi Everyone little back story about me. I am a 24 year old male turning 25 this month, with OCD and Hypochondria.   I been going to see some one to help me overcome this problem but it seems to have a never ending battle. My biggest Anxiety that I have is contracting an STD or HIV from being in a relationship in a girl. Every single girl I dated I end up scaring away, I ask them multiple times if they have anything or have had anything. Whenever a girl goes down on me that i am dating, I go into a panic mode, and check myself constantly making sure I didnt get anything. I go to the doctor to get tested constantly. The smallest itch freaks me out. I avoid sex completely and run from it making up every excuse possible. Ever girl thinks i am not attracted to them and they break up with me. I dont know what to do because this is ruining my relationships and its freaking me out mentally.  Even if they tell me they don't have anything i don't believe them  What can I do to overcome this and have a loving fulfilling relationship.
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Offline Sunlover

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Re: Hypochondria is ruining my relationships and here is why
« Reply #1 on: May 06, 2014, 05:02:47 PM »
Just do the old fashioned "no fooling around until marriage..."   :winking0008:
You won't have to disclose your hypochondria to her.  The girl thinks you are waiting out of respect.   You'll have a closer relationship built on other things besides sex AND when you get married a blood test will prove she doesn't have anything.
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Offline steve34

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Re: Hypochondria is ruining my relationships and here is why
« Reply #2 on: May 06, 2014, 08:06:03 PM »
I know i should do that but even like foreplay or the slightest of anything i think i need to get blood work done and urine tests done to think i have something. My pyschologist said if you want to overcome this then you have to face your fear and i did today but ended up asking the girl tons of questions if she had anything or does she have anything  i want to check myself  to see  if i see anything wrong down there but im trying to hold back and thinking about going to the docs but im trying to hold that off as well.
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Re: Hypochondria is ruining my relationships and here is why
« Reply #3 on: May 07, 2014, 01:26:45 AM »
Have you tried just being upfront and saying that you're a hypochondriac and you worry about these things, it's not personal, etc?  I think if I were in that situation I'd be put off because I'd assume you kept asking because you thought I might not be truthful.  Maybe if you explain what's really going on in your mind it would help.
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