It's really great to read these posts- to know that other people have the same problems that I do in deciding who to tell. I agree we need to be as open as possible about it - as a previous post says, it is a disease and most people are very open about non-mental health conditions. I have never had a negative reaction, but I have to confess that I do limit who I tell to close friends, medical profesionals, and a select number of work colleagues. I'm careful about who I tell at work in case it makes them think I'm less capable than they percieve me to be without that knowledge.
What I could do with is a famous male public or historical figure to point to and say, look this man's a hero, or whatever, and he suffered from anxiety. Depression is littered with well known sufferers, some of whom are very highly regarded. But anxiety still seems to be seen as something men shouldn't suffer from. Any ideas?