Right if your husband doesn't see it it's not there just as AP151 said. Last week my cheek was itchy and red and I could swear it was swollen, I'd smile and my left cheek would hit the bottom of my glasses - I was looking in the mirror and it appeared ALL puffed up! I went and showed my husband and he said, "It looks like it always looks!" I got closer, turned various ways and said, "It's swollen!" He looked closer... "No it's not" I then walked into my daughter's room and asked her, she just laughed and said, "You're nuts! It's the same as it always is!" I then just agreed to believe them... well everything is back to normal (no redness, no itching... but when I smile my left cheek still hits the bottom of my glasses.) My glasses must be a little crooked and I never noticed before - but with that, and it being red I "imagined" it puffy. I think you are doing the same thing.