Sometimes anxiety creates in us, whether we realize it or not, the play of what if scenarios . . .we imagine the worse and then through self-fulfilling prophecies, they come try so then anxiety can tell us "I told you so" . . . anxiety is a bad companion in a relationship . . it can cause us to withdraw; it can cause us to question the other person; it can cause us to make uninformed decisions, etc.
Whether it is anxiety or the end of a relationship that you are reluctant to let go of, I don't know . . .this is the time to have a conversation with your girlfriend to find out where she is in the relationship and to be honest with her . . . .I guess this is my experience speaking, but I have come to learn that no one can control what another person does or how another person feels . . . it is pretty much the type of crapshoot that anxiety loves . . . . it feeds on the uncertainty that comes with a relationship . . .
If this only happens during bouts of anxiety, you need to ask yourself if your uncertainty is not a trigger for your anxiety . . . these are hard questions but you need to be fair to all of the people involved . . . have a chat with your girlfriend . . . if you do have a great relationship, then getting things out on the table is the honest thing to do . . . I'm not saying it is a make or break deal, but she is probably sensing that you are different when you are in an anxiety episode . . . . approach it gently and let it develop from there . . .let us know how you and she are doing . . take care, kc