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Offline mhmommy

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unsupportive spouse
« on: March 13, 2014, 07:40:55 PM »
my husband has been very mean to me and
wants to leave when kids are older unless I die
because of my testing, etc health.
anyone else experience this?
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Re: unsupportive spouse
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2014, 06:49:51 AM »
I guess he is typical of those people who will never want to even try and understand what you are going through. He seems to have his mind set already. Tell him you have no intention of dying any time soon. I guess some people can be cruel when it comes to other people's conditions. Especially if they are married to them. I would question if it is the condition that is making say what he is saying. Maybe he has just lost interest in the marriage. Any old excuse will do. So he blames it on your anxiety condition. But we do get a few people with the same problem. Their husband or wife simple couldn't care less. That is not you has the problem. That is your husband. For better or for worse was once said. It is shown him for the person he really is.
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Re: unsupportive spouse
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2014, 10:27:22 AM »
thanks. yes he cared ***** first but wants it to
stop now - no , no understanding he knows all
he needs to I guess.
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Re: unsupportive spouse
« Reply #3 on: March 15, 2014, 08:20:44 AM »
The issue in my mind are the children. For them try and do all you can to preserve his interests and show your interest in him. He may come around and surprise you.

What are the expectations of a spouse? Sometimes we have to educate them, gently and diplomatically. Politics can begin at home.
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Re: unsupportive spouse
« Reply #4 on: March 17, 2014, 01:08:53 PM »
thanks Tina is hard but I think might work.
I am very depressed still about the ct scans
I had, am very ashamed & guilty. I didn't ask for
them but I didn't research & protect myself either.
feel very irresponsible re : my children.
have you ever had ct?
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Re: unsupportive spouse
« Reply #5 on: March 17, 2014, 05:13:20 PM »
No, have never had a ct (cat scan?) Don't know the specifics and don't need to know. But shame and guilt are useless. We'll banish them.

Children are the most forgiving souls on earth. You care a great deal about them and will appreciate them more than ever. And your husband will be delighted. We are here to support you.
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