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The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« on: March 07, 2014, 06:42:24 AM »
...and it was today for me.

I've had HA for years, mostly very manageable. I would be scared of HIV, but it was like in the back of my mind and I would live fine mostly, same with Hepatitis. Then I freaked out because of some "symptoms" went to test and saw I was fine. Fear stopped.

Last year I had one of the major panic attacks with ALS. Went to neurologist he said I was fine and I calmed down. I decided then to start going to therapy. And I've been going for a year now. Last year therapist put me on Cipralex 20mg, I was on it for 4 months without any effect really. When a new symptom would come, tingling big toe back then, I got terrified of PPMS even when on meds. Therapist calmed me down and I was so-so then.

Another panic attack happened at the beginning of this year with again new symptom of what I thought is PPMS and I got terrified again. Rushed to neurologist on 1st January. He also told me he thinks I am fine, and that if I want I can do MRI just to calm myself down. Again I felt fine until I read in report she said I have clonus in feet. Terrified again...

Doc put me on Prozac this time 20mg, and 3 weeks ago I upped it to 30mg. I am exercising 3 times a week, going to swimming 3 times a week, playing basketball once a week. Taking meds, going to therapy, doing everything I can to stop this thing, and just when I think I am fine, my girlfriend has late period and I freak out again.

I managed to freak her out too, so now, I have a chance to mess up one great thing in my life I have which is my relationship because of this freaking condition I can't control.

Then it occurred to me...I think I am fine, until some major thing symptoms happen. It could be new strange tingling, blood in stool, strong headache or this. And then I break completely. And I can't think of anything other to do. Can't exercise more than this. I am taking meds, going to therapy. FOR GOD'S SAKE PLEASE STOP!

Just letting stuff off my chest, 'cause I am very discouraged.
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2014, 07:23:25 AM »
Has the therapy and/or meds helped at all? If not, you might have to try a different therapist and a different med. I've tried several and I'm still trying to find the right combo. Although right now Viibryd and Abilify seem to be helping.
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2014, 07:33:49 AM »
Meds like cipralex, prozak sre not helping at all. I never had side effects in the beginning and benefits later. Only when I would start taking klonopin/ diazepam, I think I saw changes but I am trying to use them as little as possible.

I feel great after therapy, but as for long term benefits, can't see them really cause these thing happens the same way always.

Doctor said exercising would help and been more active. Like I said, I am working out 3xweek, swimming 3xweek, basketball 1xweek. I am  way more active than average person.

Three days ago I felt awesome, I was returning from the pool and thinking how my life is awesome. And then this thing occurs and I become a mess.

From awesome to mess in a few days...that is what's discouraging me.
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #3 on: March 07, 2014, 07:52:54 AM »
"The day you realize you'll probably never be fine..."

I hear ya'....been there...almost all of us have (many are there right now, believing anxiety will continue to dominate us forever). Through a a hyper mind, this can be what the future looks like. Doesn't have to be this way, as far as anxiety dominating us. Will anxiey likely be some part of our lives....likely yes. But, we can learn how to live very well alongside our mental health challenges.

"Doc put me on Prozac this time 20mg, and 3 weeks ago I upped it to 30mg. I am exercising 3 times a week, going to swimming 3 times a week, playing basketball once a week. Taking meds, going to therapy, doing everything I can to stop this thing, and just when I think I am fine, my girlfriend has late period and I freak out again."

Definitely keep on keepin' on with this stuff. Exercise is vital for HA peeps. Helps keep our minds in check. Helps with releasing 'feel good' endorphins. Helps us understand our bods are not failing us. Therpay is a wonderful tool. But, we MUST use self-help outside of the therapist's office. There are many techniques, actions, habits and mindsets that we can try to embrace that can help minimize anxiety / panic.

Ultimately, IMHO, you CAN control anxiety's dominance. This is what happens when we find our way to a lasting, viable healing path. Anxiety doesn not have to be the major definer of our overall well-being. Do we have to accept that it just might be a 'minor' player in our lives? Prob so. No biggie really. Of course, keeping our anxiety 'in the background' mostly takes time and patience and some levels of understanding. It takes major acceptance and the embracing of useful actions and habits. It also takes moving away from counterproductive measures that we tend to fall back into when struggling.....like too many Med Doc visits, too many med tests, googling, self-checking, self-diagnosing.

When struggling, we often believe we are stuck and we feel we have tried everything already. Most of the time, we simply have not tried everything. And / or, we just haven't given particular techniques and actions the proper time and practice needed. It certainly takes time, effort and patience (and ACCEPTANCE) before we can have better lasting peace. But, many of these actions CAN really have a positive affect on how we feel pretty darn quickly.

Perhaps, you can list (write them down) ALL the things you know that have been shown to maybe help with anxiety / panic. Everything is up for discussion. Nothing should be discounted. Writing things down helps, as anxious peeps tend to loose a train of thought pretty quickly when stressed or upset. An important part of a healing path is having a bonafide gameplan. And this sure doesn't have to be as hard or laborious as an amped up mind might think:)

Anxiety does NOT have to dominate you. Setbacks happen, also. All we do is get up, dust ourselves off and keep on truckin' with the same stuff that lead us to some good solace before. It gets better and better as we learn to accept and continue to do the right things (and NOT do the wrong things:)

Peace and Feel Well:)
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #4 on: March 07, 2014, 08:02:36 AM »
This is how I feel right now. My anxiety has been especially bad for the last year, and it's really hard to see how I'll ever get out from under this. I want to go back to looking forward to things and being able to really relax and enjoy my life.
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #5 on: March 07, 2014, 08:10:40 AM »
Hypo, you have always helped me, and you always have been the one that had control over everything, I know very good , thanks to you advices, that there is pretty much always a solution, no matter what, you just have to find it, just think about it, you have been keeping your anxiety relatively in bounds. i dont know what did you do to do so, but it worked, and if you managed to do so for that time ! Why couldn't you now ? You will manage to work through it , i know that :) It is hard, i know that better than i would like too, but it is going to be fine, you just got to bear with it :) you WILL be fine :)
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #6 on: March 07, 2014, 09:36:09 AM »
here's thing though....

you say you're not ever going to be fine because things keep happening medical wise. the issue is, nothing medical wise is happening. you're just going through what millions of us go through when it comes to HA and anxiety - physical symptoms begin to manifest.

i hope this helps.
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #7 on: March 07, 2014, 10:34:13 AM »
I don't think at all that rhings will keep happening medicaly wise...I said new symptoms will occur, new rhings will happen like late period and my anxious brain will interpret them as something serious because it doesn't listen to rational mind when it should.

That's why I am going to therapy, taking meds, exercising...to reduce strength of anxious thinking but it is not helping enough.
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #8 on: March 07, 2014, 11:23:44 AM »
I can say honestly that I have been and still can be with proper motivation-you.

I went through therapy, but never took drugs.  I actually have a real medical problem now, and to be honest, though its horrible, it has been a relief that maybe all this time, I wasn't anxious, I really had something going on.

But then I step back and realize its just me.  HA is part of who I am, its part of my personality.  I don't fight it, I just try to live with it.  You have to treat HA and anxiety in general like a chronic disease.   Just as you take BP meds  or cholesterol meds, you need to treat your anxiety in similar way.

As they say to people with autoimmune disease, you will have days with sleet, days with snow, days with rain, days with sun and days in between.  You will have flares and times you feel fine.  You have to approach this disease the same way.  Know you will probably have days you will freak out.  Own it, deal with it and move on.  If meds are necessary for you, stay on them, talk to someone, post on here.  Just try to get as much reassurance as you can and try not to unload it all on people that don't understand.  I try not to talk about my health problems as much as I used to because, even now I actually have one, people roll their eyes because I've had so many anxiety attacks about stuff that never happened.

Stay strong.
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Re: The day you realize you'll probably never be fine...
« Reply #9 on: March 07, 2014, 11:45:23 AM »
I can go off meds at any time since they aren't doing a thing really. I also agree that talking to ppl who didn't have HA never is rather pointless since they just can't get it.

Thank you all for your answers, I appreciate it very much.
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