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Offline Momee

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Re: Anxiety relapse and thoughts (a little embarressing)
« Reply #10 on: March 25, 2014, 11:41:03 AM »
Hey! No no its me I didn't send it again. I'm sorry, I stepped away for a bit and kept myself busy with other things instead of being online searching for the "answers".
Baby needs me, hopefully when he naps I'll get a chance to write you. How are you doing anyways?
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Re: Anxiety relapse and thoughts (a little embarressing)
« Reply #11 on: March 25, 2014, 01:19:28 PM »
Masturbation is completely normal and, I would argue, healthy. That said, it's not about the masturbation, that's just something your anxiety is making you fixate on. When my anxiety gets particularly bad, I find that I put a lot of emphasis on embarrassing things I've done in the past or recently and it's mentally painful. So I think it's part of anxiety to do that. Your anxiety roots around in your brain for something that you feel shame or embarrassment about (regardless of whether you should feel shame or embarrassment about those things) and it latches on to that making you think about it, which causes those feelings of shame/embarrassment to be even worse.

So yeah, to sum up:

1. Masturbation is normal and healthy and nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about.

2. It's your anxiety causing these feelings.

Hang in there!
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Re: Anxiety relapse and thoughts (a little embarressing)
« Reply #12 on: March 26, 2014, 07:01:00 AM »
I agree with the above statement, mastrubation is a normal part of life, wether your preteen/teen/adult its a way of release, it increases endorphins naturally in our body.... to make you feel lesss ashamed i'll tell you a story about something my therapist told me.

a few yrs ago i was seeing a alternative therapist you know the kind the one who trys alll hollistic approches and trys to help you in the most natural way possible without medication etc etc.

now he told me that when anxiety is high or my depresion is bad or i feel panicky there are lots of things i can do naturally to ease it, take a hot bath, drink caomile tea, burn lavander oil, get hugs from my kids, get hugs from my partner and have orgasims........... basically he told me if you feel anxiety/panick coming on or your mood going down down down to basically have an orgasim, either by myself if my partner wasnt around to assist or with my partner, mostly becuase after you clilmax, your body releasis endorphins which are the biggestand most powerful feel good hormones in our body, so wanting that feel good feeling is neither dirty nor shameful..........we werent given the power of the orgasim to feel ashamed about it. I honestly think your dwelling on what you ave done is making you feel ashamed..........when frankly you have nothing ot be ashamed about at all, people who dont have sex or self service shall i say are the ones i worry about, you know embracing sexual desire is healthy its supressing it thats unhealthy especially when your feeling guilty about it.

if you want to pm me feel free hunny, i understand how you feel.
Just on a added note note dont mess with medication doses stay on the same dose and you will probabkly find you wont have these dips in and out, your medication is given to you to toake on a rgular basis at a certain dose to keep you stable, if its benzos lowering and upping is fine it stops tolerance but if its anti depresant or somthing regular dont mess with your dosing, your dr put you on it for a reason and im only talking from my personal and professional opinion that messing with med doses will not keep you stable and may increase you anxiety depression and panic.

Stay well stay positive and feel free to Pm me

Kitty
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Currently surfing the anxiety waves!!
Current meds
30mg mirtazapine (remeron) at night
30mg Duloxetine (cymbalta) Evening
20mg temazepam nightly
5mg diazepam 3x's daily
Pregabalin (Lyrica) 150mg 3x's daily

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Re: Anxiety relapse and thoughts (a little embarressing)
« Reply #13 on: March 26, 2014, 06:31:56 PM »
Hi.  Glad to hear you've been focusing on other things.  That's a step in the right direction.  Good comments/advice from the last two who posted.  I'm always worrying incessantly or depressed about something.  I'm working on living in the "present" with my therapist--hard to do.  PM me anytime.   :happy0151:
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Re: Anxiety relapse and thoughts (a little embarressing)
« Reply #14 on: March 30, 2014, 08:07:03 PM »
Thanks to the 2 new replies :)

angsty - I think I know in the back of my head (and I keep telling myself) its just the anxiety, but I still have the feeling that "its a lie" and even my own vioce saying "not your gross and deserve nothing and you should feel bad" then I feel like throwing up. 6 weeks after lowering my medication (because life was great and no anxiety for quite some time), I was triggered by my 6 year old daughter confessing out of the blue that she kissed 2 boys last yr in kindergarden.....she felt soooo bad! (I always felt bad for things and worried about people being mad at me......this is mostly what my anxiety revolves around "doing something wrong") I calmed her down and reassured her I wasn't upset and that lots of kids do that and to forget about it. It continued to bother her for a few days and I started to worry she was getting anxiety like myself (she doesn't see my anxiety at all)......my anxiety started up from a few days after she "confessed"......then I started thinking about my "things" when I was younger (more like 10-13ish.......which I had dealt with before and seemed to be not caring about at all, I could laugh with my sister about it) and all of a sudden I started fixating on it and started feeling horrible shame, guilt, out of no where.
So, I really hope your right and its just the anxiety. I have upped my medication recently because I didn't know what else to do as things were not getting much better (slightly better). The doctor suggested the higher dose would help as it this medication has always helped. I keep worrying that it will take the physical symptoms away but I will be stuck with these bad thoughts and never get my confidence back.
I feels so stupid while everyone else ...husband, sister and the ppl online I have chatted to about this think this is incredibly silly to have bother me and yet I cant stop it.

NinjaKitty- thanks for your reply also! i can't believe I haven't learned not to mess with the dosage in the past as I have done this so many times......(consulting the dr of course, never on my own). I wont be doing it again

JZK - got your msg! I'll write you back soon!
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Re: Anxiety relapse and thoughts (a little embarressing)
« Reply #15 on: April 01, 2014, 08:40:40 AM »
Yeah hunni, if you have consulted your dr when you alter doses just because u feel better and your dr is saying ok then in my opinion your dr is a idiot.... meds take up to 3 months till they make us feel better..... that doesn't mean lets lower the dose coz im.better.... the dose you take that makes you feel better is the dose you need to stay on for at least a year to 3 yrs is recommended by psychiatrists... then you can taper off and still feel.better... the whole point of antidepressants is they are for LONG TERM USE, and yes messing with doses will explain the fluctuations in how your feeling.  Stick on them honey at the therapeutic dose you will find your good days will outweigh the bad ones.

Good luck stay safe and stay happy xxxx no more guilty feelings needed your a good women and a good mommy xxx

kityy xxxx
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Currently surfing the anxiety waves!!
Current meds
30mg mirtazapine (remeron) at night
30mg Duloxetine (cymbalta) Evening
20mg temazepam nightly
5mg diazepam 3x's daily
Pregabalin (Lyrica) 150mg 3x's daily