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Offline Lo213

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Why aren't all of the false alarms reassuring?
« on: January 24, 2014, 11:32:18 AM »
Why am I not reassured by how many hundreds, heck possibly thousands, of times I've been wrong about dying?  I feel like that should make me accept that it's anxiety, but it doesn't, even when I journal my symptoms and fears and then retread them. What better proof is that?  This is going on 5 years of my current fear (heart attack) yet NOTHING seems to reassure me that it's not real.
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Re: Why aren't all of the false alarms reassuring?
« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2014, 11:37:54 AM »
I wish I knew, Lo. I wonder the same. Our brains aren't wired to assess logic properly because of how deep our fear and anxieties run. We always think that this time is different; this time is "real."
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Re: Why aren't all of the false alarms reassuring?
« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2014, 11:57:13 AM »
Because you have an anxiety disorder.  Your thought processes (and the rest of ours!) are wired differently than the average person, who would in fact be relieved that something was a false alarm.  And a little more specifically, reassurance-seeking is one of those coping mechanisms that "relieves" our acute anxiety but only tends to strengthen the idea that there IS something "wrong" and in that sense we were right in the first place!

(GAD here, not health anxiety, but the reassurance seeking rings true for me too)

So what do we need to do with that? Retrain our thoughts....with CBT, mindfulness, meditation, etc.
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Re: Why aren't all of the false alarms reassuring?
« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2014, 12:00:05 PM »
All of us at one time or another fear uncertainty. The key is learning how to deal with it in an acceptable and rational manner.
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