Well I appreciate your advice...but don't you think you're minimizing the reality of what's going on? From my experience...depression makes me feel helpless and anxious and it's only reasonable to focus on it when it's effecting my life so badly...
how could you tell me not to focus on something that is there day in and day out? Depression hurts...a lot...and to not focus on the constant pain...that's like asking a blind man to try and see again...
I can't go to the beach by the way...i don't know if you meant that figuratively or not...what do you think I've been doing since my problems escalated a couple years ago? I've been doing the best I can...I'm still here...after all of that pain...suffering...I'm still here...and you're telling me not to focus on something that is always there with me?
I think everyone on Anxiety Zone (AZ) has come to a consensus depression is a bitch. Fucking aye, I've been depressed, and it's not fucking fun. It's bullshit. I fucking hate it. Pardon my rude language, but everyone on this forum knows the hell of depression and anxiety.
I just say, it's given, that is why you are taking the medication to heal your brain. The medication will alleviate the anxiety and depression if you give it time, as you follow the advice of your doctor. Let the medication do the work, and allow you to one day have the depression and anxiety under control.
You can't rush the process. Your brain has to take time to heal itself with the medication. Usually it takes about three months, and in the mean time, you can focus on depression, and make yourself miserable, or you can focus somewhere else.
You have an imagination. Make up a place. Do you like beaches? If you like women, then think about girls in bikinis, or vice versa, if you prefer men. Do you like the feeling of the sun on your face? Do you like feeling the sand in your fingertips. Do you like working out, and showing your body on display, where everyone can say, "Damn. That dude is 'effing buffed." Do you like roller skating on the beach, as the wind flaps in your face,. Do you like to get tanned?
But, then you say, that's not reality. Of course it's not reality, instead it's something pleasant to focus on, than to give your attention to your depression and anxiety that seems to be stuck (or even glued) in your reality. You're making the depression and anxiety a priority, because you're locked in, because that's all you talk about. If I'm right, since I've been depressed and anxious too with panic disorder, your friends and family don't even want to be around you, because you emit such a negative vibe with your focus on depression and anxiety.
If it doesn't serve you, then don't give it your attention. In the mean time, while you are focusing on more positive things like the beach, and the feeling of the wind on your face, and all the wonderful feelings of being in that environment, you've distracted yourself. Likewise, your brain is working in the background, recooperating itself through neurogenesis with the antidepressant. Thank god for Vibryd.
Anyway, I'm not giving you advice. I'm just telling you how I control my anxiety and depression, as I allow the medication do the work. Not to mention, if you have some good insurance, as well as a couple of grand to spend on therapy, you can get a therapist to teach you the same technique to distract yourself. Basically your therapist should teach you rational emotive therapy*, where you stop making things such a big fucking issue. Ok, it's depression, it will pass. In the mean time, let's not give it all our attention, because there are many, thousands of other things to focus on in our head.
Like the beach ..... So much more pleasant in my imagination, than to bitch about my current reality. http://albertellis.org/