Hello everybody, I know there's probably a million topics on this but it is really bothering me.
I'm a 25 YO male who's had one girlfriend (in college) that went on for several months.
There's a girl I work with that I've known for several years. When we first met I think she liked me but I didn't do anything about it. I wouldn't say we've become good friends but we've always talked at work and I like it. There's been many times when I wanted to ask her on a date but could never summon the courage. Over the past few months I think she's been dropping not-so-subtle hints that she wants me to (asking if I have a GF, mentioning that she's not dating anyone).
I don't know what it is but every time I think about it, I just get overwhelmed with thinking I'll look like a complete dope. I tried to start texting her outside of work but can never come up with anything to say. And even if I got past all these hurdles and set up a date, my mind is already going over everything that could go wrong and how I could make a fool of myself. I was determined when I woke up yesterday to do it but couldn't get it out when we were talking. Now I'll spend all weekend regretting it and beating myself up over it.
The thing is now I think I've missed all my (MANY) chances to ask her out. If I was her I wouldn't wait around for so long for a dummy like me to ask her out. I just wish that for once I could be confident enough to not come off as a nervous adolescent who looks like he's never talked to women.
Thanks for taking the time to read this as it was good to get it off my chest. If you have any thoughts or ideas I would really, really appreciate it.