About 2 months ago I went to a hospital/clinic for some routine tests. One of them included a PAP smear and they used a metal speculum to open my vagina. The nurse came in with this metal box where the speculum was, among other tools. I assumed it had been sterilized because it was in a metal box that the nurse came in with. It looked clean, but I can't be 100% sure. After she did the PAP smear I had a very little bit of bleeding as well.
It's just that 3 weeks after this, I became ill with a mild cold-like thing - I was dizzy, had a mild headache, a couple of smell tender lymph nodes in my neck. Also a small tender lymph node in my groin. I also had a vomiting, diarrhea and low-grade fever episode one night, but that might have been related to a separate food poisoning because it happened after eating a cream filled cake.
I was assured by doctors that I could not contract HIV from the speculum (the exact words were 'very unlikely', 'haven't been at risk in any way', 'no worries').
However, 2 months later, I had unprotected sex with my husband (trying to conceive) and 15 days after this, he came down with this flu-like illness - fever (which lasted only 1 night), headache, moderate fatigue, very sore throat, hacking cough. He feels terrible for days now. I started thinking that maybe I cought hiv from the metal speculum and that his illness is a seroconversion... especially because I don't seem to catch it from him although I've been around him all the time.
Can this be HIV or is my mind playing tricks on me? Was I exposed? I feel so worried and guilty! And I can't trust my judgement anymore when it comes to health issues...