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Offline ericdrobertson

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Identity OCD??
« on: December 13, 2013, 06:05:45 PM »
Hey, I havent checked in for a while because Ive been doing pretty good until this past week or so. Ive been doing some long distance running which has been helping with my nervous energy and has been making it to where I sleep like a rock through the night.

The reason I am posting is to see if anyone else has struggled with the following and what tips they can offer: I am 19 and for my whole life I have struggled with the question "Who am I?" Like what clothes do I like to wear, what music do I like, what do I want to do as a career? I have asked this constantly since I was young. The issue is the fact that I cant settle any of those questions. For example, I live in the south, country music is a prominent music style. So I listen to it and then everything else that doesnt line up with "country culture" I wont allow myself to do like jogging for instance, "no farmers around here jog, thats a thing for "city folk". Or lets say I hear an old Chili Peppers song on the radio, thoughts pop up in my mind like "I cant listen to that" "thats not what people in the south listen to". Its a constant battle in my head. I go all "scorched earth" culturally. Mind you I did grow up in the south and do enjoy southern things but I am super aware of everything right down to whether I wear boots or tennis shoes. Any thoughts or tips?
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Re: Identity OCD??
« Reply #1 on: December 14, 2013, 09:11:21 AM »
Patience with yourself is key. It takes some of us longer to know what we are about, our preferences, inclinations, etc. Took me a lifetime, for goodness sake.

Can tell you one of my favorite writers is southern, Carson McCullers. The Heart is a Lonely Hunter is a favorite along with The Member of the Wedding. Could never read Faulkner, but maybe you can. Trust yourself and give yourself time.
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