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Offline tlebo

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Anxiety in Resteraunts
« on: December 04, 2013, 04:44:26 PM »
I find that one of my main anxiety triggers is going out to eat. I'm usually fine with family and my boyfriend (although there have been several times where I couldn't eat with them) but I find it hard with people I don't know well or people I work with. The 4 girls at work always go out for a Christmas lunch. The worst thing I think is the before hand.. We (well.. they) planned a lunch for 2 weeks from now and I am just constantly dreading it. I basically get anxiety about getting anxiety. I'm nervous that I'll be anxious while we're there and that I'll just want to leave but I can't. A lot of the time once I get to the restaurant I'm fine, but there have been a few times where I'm anxious and awkward and feel gaggy and can't eat. I'm just going to see how I feel the day of the lunch and if I'm too anxious just tell them I'm not feeling well. My problem is I honestly just don't want to go.. But then I feel like I'm giving up and giving into the anxiety.
Why can't we just go to work, do our job, and go home?

What would you do? Give in or go?
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2013, 09:24:03 PM »
If it's something that's important to you, you should go, even if it's uncomfortable. If it's truly not important to you, then you shouldn't feel obligated to do it just to appease other people. So I guess if I were you I would decide whether it's something that's important and then make the decision based on that.

If you're thinking about it a lot though, it might suggest that it's something that's meaningful to you.
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2014, 09:17:55 PM »
Hey,
I have anxiety in a restaurant when I'm eating alone but as I keep doing it more often I'm doing better.
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2014, 11:09:02 PM »
hey..i have a similar problem..whenever i go out to eat somewhere i can never eat properly..i feel as though im being watched and stuck in the room im eating..its not bad now but i still cant fully eat comfortably
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #4 on: March 08, 2014, 10:09:34 PM »
Those work lunches are nothing but awkward.  I used to go to a few of them when I first started my career but now keep them down to a minimum.  I much prefer to go to lunch with one or two people then the entire team!
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #5 on: March 09, 2014, 10:30:57 AM »
I get the same feeling sometimes. Exposure is always the best choice but it is easier said then done.  Maybe the week before you could go out to eat at the same restaurant and sorta practice? Or maybe you could drag your boyfriend on your outing with you and your coworkers? Sometimes having someone there helps
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #6 on: March 09, 2014, 10:09:13 PM »
I'm the same way, but I'm a different person since I've started taking Benzos. Some of the things I used to dread, like going to the movies, I look forward to now.

Since going out to eat with your co-workers doesn't sound like a regular thing, a benzodiazapine may be a good option.

Hopefully, you can explain your situation to a doctor and she'll be understanding.
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #7 on: August 24, 2015, 12:57:18 AM »
I absolutely hate going out to restaurants, and I'll only go to a select few. I prefer to eat my food alone in my room or at least in my own home. I get nauseous when I'm nervous, so I usually don't feel like eating or feel kind of sick. I tend to do better in quieter, less crowded restaurants, but I still eat much better when I'm at home. In general, I do not enjoy eating in public at all. It's gotten really really bad...almost to the point where I can't eat anything at all outside of the house unless I take a hydroxazine. It's relieving that other people feel the same way as well; makes me feel a lot less alone.
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #8 on: August 24, 2015, 01:25:11 AM »
There is a similarity in all these posts and that in not, not wanting to go. It only looks that way, It is actually not having control. The root of Agoraphobia is not having control. The only way to get back control is to want to. "want to" is positive. "have to" is negative. It is possible to do something you have to only if you can convince yourself you want to and actually believe it. How many of you can honestly say you would not like to be able to go to a restaurant without anxiety.
I used to be like that till I got fed up with the fear and Said "I want to do this" "I can do this". Of course the negative snuck in and I freaked a few times till I convinced myself I could do it and honestly believed it. It took some relaxation techniques and some coping, sneaking off to the washroom. But mostly it took the positive "I want to do this". and I can now with absolutely no anxiety or coping skills or the "I want to mantra". Belief in me is what did the most along with keeping that negative "Have to" at bay. Knowing you don't have to and can leave helps but not as much as believing you really want to. But of course if you really don't want to it won't work. But how can you not "want to" put anxiety in it's place. This actually does work.
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Re: Anxiety in Resteraunts
« Reply #9 on: August 29, 2015, 12:05:08 PM »
I understand what you are going through. I hate going out to eat with people i don't feel comfortable around. Sometimes my hands start to shake a little and I'm scared I will either spill something on myself or embarrass myself. I feel like everyone is watching me. Whenever that happens, I try to calm down and tell myself that it's not a big deal and that it's all in my head. Sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't but I still try to force myself to go out to eat even though it gives me so much anxiety. I'd say, try to go out more with people you feel comfortable around- at least that helps me a little.
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