First of all, fighting with anxiety or resisting it will cause it to persist.
Secondly, nobody can make you feel anxious - only you can do that!
Anxiety is simply an emotional “reaction”. Nobody has a magical anxiety wand that they wave over you. Don’t be fooled.
All these people are just people. They can only motivate you to feel anxious because of something that you associate with them - shame, guilt, pressure, responsibility etc - which is triggered in the form of anxiety while you are in their presence.
By you, for you, you assigned emotions, thoughts, physical sensations, and certain qualities and judgments such as good / bad and right / wrong, to that person.
Since you assigned all that, it also means you have the power to reassign all those things. Yes, you.
This is an important realisation because it can help you shift from feeling victimised to feeling empowered.
When you’re around these people, anxiety is like a bell ringing informing you of a message that’s trying to be delivered. The message can be about anything negative you’ve not yet resolved e.g false beliefs, excessive need for validation, high insecurity, failure to assume responsibility, not being true to who you are etc.
So wishing the symptoms away or avoiding people isn’t going to help.
When you’re faced with these people/events, and the anxiety bell is ringing, look beyond the symptoms of the moment and try to figure out what is the underlying message that you’ve been avoiding / ignoring?
Huh? Well, for example, “Mary Joe always seems angry, and when I’m around people like her who are angry, I feel anxious. I think it’s because in the past I got criticised unfairly when Auntie Sue was angry, and I don’t deal with confrontation very well. I feel really uncomfortable and stressed. I think I can resolve this by learning to become more assertive, less avoidant, and learning how to deal with conflict. I can do this by X, Y and Z.. etc”