Hi everyone, I am a 21 year old male from Arizona and I've suffered PE (premature ejaculation) issues for a long while... The first time I had sex with my girlfriend I lasted maybe 10 seconds....It was embarassing but she was very kind and understood my problem. After a while, I got over the premature ejaculation and she says she has never had better sex in her life. This made me feel really proud of myself and I became extremely confident, I lasted longer, I could do no wrong.
It was after we had a fallout during her vacation to the east coast that things went sour.. When she came back, I had found out she cheated on me as a result of this fallout. We broke up for a week but after lots of contemplating, talking it out, rehashing things and setting new ground rules for our relationship. Things were great... except... the premature ejaculation came back. And this time, it didn't go away. It stayed and it has been very hard for it to go away. I've disappointed her a lot for the past couple months and it has starting to be extremely frustrating for us... We both agree, however, that anxiety might be causing it... Ever since I found out what she did to me, I became more self conscience about my performance. I began to think of the guy who cheated on her... The mere fact that someone other than me had sex with her hurt me a lot and the anxiety built up in me. I felt pressured every time we had intercourse.. I'm doing a lot of things to try and control it because she recently moved to California and she is coming to visit in a couple days. I don't want to dissapoint her. She knows my problem but I don't know what I would have to do to get over it. If someone on here can help me, give me some advice, your own experience with something similar, anything would greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time in reading this.