Sorry so long:) But, please let your anxious mind relax a bit and read entire post. I recall being so hyper amped up, at times, that I had difficult times focusing and comprehending things. Man, do I ever remember:)
Im so scared of the future:-(
Hi t:) Well, this pretty much hits to the core of anxiety / health anxiety. When we struggle with anxiety, we have so many 'what if's?' hounding us, at times. Our brains race to worse case scenarios and there, simply, seems to be little hope that something
bad won't happen to us. With amped up HA, we typically envision a sinister disease wrecking our lives by taking us away from our kids / family / future. Or, we see a disease slowly debilitating us as we slip further and further into needing caregiving to just live (causing such despair for our family). Now mind you, these perceptions are what our anxiety disorder / health anxiety minds fuel its fear with, often. Luckily for us (anxiety peeps), history (and real life) so wildly overwhelmingly show us that our perceptions of what lies ahead of us can be tremendously off-base, to say the least. Whew....glad this is true, else The AZ would be a pretty barren place as we would all pretty much be dead from cancer or heart trouble or unable to type on the computer as we would be suffering with MS or ALS. That would be sucky!:) But, this is far from the truth - far from the actual life almost all us HA peeps live. So very few have cancer...so very few get MS, etc. Sure, some anxiety folks get disease...but that would have to fall in line with statistics that follow the general population. We are NOT predisposed to more cancer...more neuro disease, etc., than others. We only feel we are destined to an early demise. And, this is anxiety....not an actual health concern.
Probably the most difficult 'part' of learning to live better alongside anxiety disease is acceptance
, IMHO. HA peeps have a troubling time letting go, so to speak, of the hammering intrusive thoughts that we have something terribly wrong happening in our bods. Intrusive thoughts are part of anxiety disorder(s) / health anxiety....there is no getting around them when we struggle with anxiety. But, we do not have to let our faulty (and powerful) thinking patterns drive us deep into a cycle of bad habits and counterproductive actions and negative mindsets. Can our intrusive thoughts drive us this way, though? Sure, they can. And, this is what so many anxiety peeps struggle with....the obsessions and compulsions very often 'win out'. And, then, we continue seeking out those 'needed' reassurances (which come in many forms). Truth is we don't need
them. And, more importantly, if we continue seeking out constant reassurances, we will have a much more trying time learning how to become the major definer of our own OVERALL well-being. And, if continuing seeking constant reassurances, we will have a much more meandering path towards understanding that, ultimately, that it is you (me, all of us) who can best predict and predetermine most
of our future. We can do this mostly by our actions and habits and mindsets....and by moving away from the counterproductive measures that we, often, fall back into when scared, panicked, worried, uncertain, doubtful, etc.
An amped up body reacts. A tense body tires. An agitated mind troubles us and helps create a tense and amped body. And, then we can have a multitude of pretty darn dominate physical manifestations creep into our daily lives. An HA mind doesn't like physical manifestations.....in fact, we fear them, too often. Part of acceptance is that we need to allow ourselves to embrace an understanding that this is COMMON AND NORMAL behavior and reaction for an amped up body and mind
! This is what's gonna happen. But, we know this, as we live it (or have lived it). Yet, until we can find a way onto a viable healing path for our mental health challenges, we can continue seeking out medical intervention and we can continue seeking out reassurances that everything else is going to be OK in our lives, as well. Again, HA can certainly bleed over into many facets of our lives. HA can mask a lot of other issues. And we can feel, "If I could just get over this damn health crap I could move forward in my life and be that dynamic, secure, always joyful person I know I can be." "Why me! Why can't I just move past this BS!?". "My health 'issues' are totally holding me back in being myself....I just want to be ME!" Cancer does not cause these feelings. MS does not cause these feeling. A heart issue does not cause these feelings. Our anxious minds
do. And, for this, we can learn how to truly help ourselves...I promise:)
Don't feel we have to go this alone. Some can find a healing path with little assistance. Some need more professional help and, perhaps, some meds, as well. Don't feel your (each of our) case is worse (overwhelmingly it is not). But, one facet of ALL of our healing paths will be ACCEPTANCE...else there is no true lasting, viable healing path. Acceptance is not, merely, us saying 'OK I accept...now anxiety be gone!" Acceptance is much more....and it is based upon doing....actions, habits and techniques, also. It is not all about thinking about 'living well', but our mindful affirmations ARE a part, too:). It is also about learning how to not fight 'tooth and nail' against anxiety and panic and intrusive thoughts, as we are most often left more anxious and emotionally battered when we do so.
Acceptance is not the 'magic pill'. But, it is such an intrinsic part of healing. It doesn't have to be so "new age" and ethereal, so to speak. Acceptance can become quite natural in our lives....and we don't have to be sitting at a babbling creek's edge with flowers in our hair either:) That sounds good, I suppose....but each of us have it within us. Anxiety certainly can cloud us from believing this.....so we will say, "what's the use...nothing really seems to help me that much." The 'use' is you and your future. Your future just does not have to be dominated
by anxiety / health anxiety. When we struggle to the levels most often alluded to on The AZ, likely, we will have some sort of interactions with anxiety for our lifetimes....some sort of interaction
. IMHO, we don't get 'cured'. But, who cares, really. We can learn how to live so very well
alongside our mental health challenges....and I just know in my heart, soul and mind that almost all of us can find a way to some much deserved lasting peace. It won't simply come to us, most likely....we have to go get it through our self-help and our actions and habits and mindsets. But, better lasting solace is there - I know this (and I'm just a normal dude, myself:)
Peace and Feel Well:)