Hi all, I am turning to this forum, which has helped me in the past with my anxiety issues. However, this is not for me, but for someone very close to me for which I would really like some advice. For the past 6 months or so, my partner has had increasing episodes of what I have diagnosed as sleep paralysis (hypnogogic and hypnopompic hallucinations). I am not a medical professional, but I am a researcher, and it fits all the characteristics of these. However, I have posted it in this forum rather than in the sleep disorders forum, because I think he is becoming delusional about his experiences.
On falling asleep/waking/meditating, he has the typical hypnogogic etc symptoms of being held down, out of body experiences, extremely vivid hallucinations for all sensory modalities (visual, tactile, audio etc). He's seen other beings, Jesus, etc. This is very similar to what I have heard describe as the results of illicit hallucinogenic substances (dimethyl tryptamine), some of which he HAS taken (and says gives him the same experiences, but more vivid). However, he swears blind that these hallucinations occur without taking anything. He also sleeps really badly, and these hallucinations first happened after he was jetlagged, very tired, and after a major health scare. They do not seem to correspond to any other pathology, given their time of occurrence/type etc etc.
However, the issue for me is that these are increasing in intensity, and most concerning of all, he calls them "visions" and believes 100% that they are "real". I have shown him things on sleep paralysis, and he gets annoyed with me, in fact for one lecture, he said that the speaker (a renowned psychologist who investigates similar experiences) was talking rubbish because the things he describes are "the same as I experience, but I know that they are REAL". I said, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck and walks like a duck, it probably IS a duck. He got annoyed with this, and instead, he is convinced he is being told the secrets of the universe, talking to other dimensional "beings", being told future events, etc etc.
Ok, so apart from my complete disagreement about the cause of his hallucinations, my problem is that he is making life decisions based on his "visions" of the future (ie selling the house, quitting his job, etc). In addition, the fact that he is becoming delusional is extremely disturbing for me (and doesn't help my own anxiety, not to mention that I am becoming increasingly depressed over this), as I don't know what to do. I cannot talk to any friends, because they will think he is crazy and judge him, when I think the last thing he needs is that sort of stuff. And he has some other friends, who are believers in every bit of woo out there, and think he is some sort of prophet (I don't care about their mental state though) and who just encourage him, and there are others who are encouraging him take more psychedelic drugs. I detest drugs, and this is deeply disturbing to me, especially as they have told ME that I need to take this stuff so I can also understand and become "enlightened". Which, of course, I have flatly refused and which causes further problems.
My question to all is, how on earth can I talk to him, and encourage him to share stuff with me, when I am obviously in total disagreement with him. Should I just wait him out, until his predictions don't eventuate (they always conveniently date them), and hope that he gets over it????? The only people I can talk to are professionals (ie psychologists, doctors etc) but they cost too much money, and if it does nothing to change his mind, what is the point? I love my husband, but coping with this is totally beyond me.
Any suggestions are extremely welcome, as I honestly have utterly no idea what to do? Does he have bipolar or schizophrenia perhaps? Could it be some sort of tumour? He refuses to go to the doctor. Thank you so much.