i'm sure this topic has been posted elsewhere, but i was wondering if anyone else who struggles with agoraphobia has either never gotten their driver license or has a really difficult time driving? and if so, has it made your staying in worse due to not being able to get where you need to go independently and not wanting to always rely on someone, in addition to a fear of public transportation? this has been a major struggle for me my whole life, since i never got my license. i attempted to get it several times by getting my permit, but they always just expired. i also have only been on public transportation alone once, a public bus in a busy downtown, and i ended up getting off in a really bad area too soon, from confusion and had to walk home alone. i always need someone with me for direction or navigation whether in car or by foot, and it's embarrassing to be that way still at my age (30s).
also what seems to make me feel worse is constantly hearing from the few friends i have or meeting up with someone from the past or someone new ... "you still dont have your license?!?!?" it makes the shame a lot worse and has also made me not want to hang with friends, because i hate that they would always have to be the one to pick me up. to be honest, i would be happier to live in a place where i could just walk a reasonable, safe distance (knowing i wouldn't be mugged or harassed in some way), to get to most places i needed to go, without the danger of extreme weather like blizzards or heat waves. i think the struggle to get out of the house would be less of an anxiety issue if i knew i would never have to drive.
i actually was able to get around to the absolute essential places like school, the store or the bank at the time, when i lived in a very popular busy downtown area. but, it is very expensive to live in places like that and i could never afford to get back there. i also still never went outside unless forced to, and when i did i would walk fast and could never make eye contact with anyone. that was ages ago though. since, i can't even walk outside alone to check mail or something. and, i have been stuck living in places where even public transportation is scarce and takes hours to get where a car can get in a matter of minutes.