I gave blood the other day, and now for some reason my HA has decided that I could have HIV and I'm going to hear back from the Red Cross in a couple weeks with that fact.
I'm not going to claim to be a saint. My earlier college years I was pretty promiscuous, although always used protection except for 1 or 2 slip ups which I of course regret. But I guess on the "risk factor" side of things I stayed away from the high risk behaviors...never done IV drugs, all of my past partners were straight, etc.
Summer 2012 I gave blood - I used to donate every two months just out of habit - and I never heard anything about my blood being contaminated so I assumed I was HIV negative (I know you aren't supposed to use donating blood as testing yourself, I wasn't doing it that way, it was just more of a "oh I donate every 2 months no problem, so I must be okay" type deal). Coincidentally after summer 2012 my promiscuity habits plummeted - I was in a committed relationship for a while, then another one later in the year, etc. Nowhere near how I used to be, I also drank less, which helped.
Then for whatever reason after last summer I didn't donate for over a year...busy with work, traveling, etc, just didn't get around to it. So finally on Friday I walked by a blood donation drive and decide to go ahead and do it since I'm way overdo.
Since the last time I donated blood I've had one incident of unprotected sex from a person of unknown status, although he did not get a chance to "finish" due to alcohol problems and I understand that statistically if the male does not ejaculate the rate of transmission is lower.
So now I'm all worked up waiting to hear from the Red Cross, which I probably won't. I've thought about going to a clinic to get tested but the free testing center says it takes up to 2 weeks to hear back for results from them so I'd be waiting just as long to hear about (probably nothing) something from the Red Cross.
From my own Googling (ugh) it seems to be a pretty common statistic that the chances of getting HIV from someone of unknown status with unprotected sex is about 1/500 from one encounter. The person who I had unprotected sex with isn't a stranger, he's someone I've known for years, we aren't close buddies but I know he isn't into drugs and had a monogamous relationship for a long time before we hooked up.
So after typing all this out my question is do you guys have any tips for how to "stay calm" waiting for what will probably be nothing? I keep telling myself there's nothing I can do between now and then, there's no point in worrying because you are probably just fine, etc, but well, that doesn't work...haha...
Oh and as far as current relations go, I am in a very serious committed relationship right now. I guess part of my underlying HA concerns aren't just for myself, but for my partner. I don't "really" think I have HIV, but my train of thought tends to be "I don't think I have it, but I could, and if I did, what about [boyfriend]??" etc