Well, let me return the thanks and thank you for coming here, posting your questions, and becoming an active participant . . . that type of exchange is great for everyone . . .
I am glad that meds are working for you . . . some of us also use other techniques including consulting with a trained counselor in the area of anxiety; others use techniques such as keeping a journal and writing out our issues . . . this helps because it helps us to see what real and is generated by the anxiety. Still others use lifestyle changes from sleep, food choices, and exercises to manage the symptoms . . . the key, though, is getting to know the causes and triggers of your anxiety.
Because you are going through a high degree of concentration of tough times, it so helps to have a support circle . . .for some, this is not possible because they do not have people in their circles who really understand anxiety or will or can help with other issues. If possible, check out to see if there are any community-based support networks and/or groups in your area and, of course, any one of us here on the forum will do our best to help support you. It may help to make a list of the issues confronting you at this time and decide which ones you can do something about . . . some issues, well, some issues are out of an individual's ability to do anything about . . . for example, one of my most stressful times was when I was caring for a parent who had cancer . . . no one could do anything including me to change the course of the diseases, but I knew that I could make Mom more comfortable so that is what I did . . . sometimes, for me, anxiety arises when I put too high a degree of expectation on myself . . . so, if this is happening to you, decide what is realistically possible for you to do and do that and understand that everything else is outside your control . . . I know it is not easy, but it may be necessary for your own health . . .
The so called worst anxiety attacks, in my experience, appear when I let issues build up without acknowledging that I am able only to deal with a subset of everything . . . as I deal with those expectations that are realistic, I tend to feel more accomplished and less anxious because I have accepted that all the other stuff is out of my control . . . no, it does not make the anxiety disappear completely but by focusing on what I can do, I tend not to focus on what I can't do and, for me, that helped / helps . . . .
I also changed my lifestyle . . .again, not perfect but I do take care of myself . . . when I don't, I find that I am more susceptible to intensified episodes of anxiety . . . I walk about 30-45 minutes a day (I had to build up to that) most days of the week . . . in fact, if there is a day when I do not walk, then I feel more anxious so for me walking as my exercise of choice is more of a treat than a chore . . . I try to eat appropriately (no fast foods, no salt, little caffeine --- no coffee but 1 cup a tea a day), and I have what my family calls a sleep regimen (I go to bed and get up more or less at the same time every day) although this took me a while to get used to as sometimes sleep eludes me and I use mindfulness to help me . . . overall, I try to find things to do to give me a sense of accomplishment . . .some are small such as cleaning out my sock drawer and some are bigger such as "volunteering" (and this does not have to be formal volunteering as I get a bit of anticipatory anxiety if I have to feel that someone someplace is depending on me to be at a given location on a consistent basis because I feel if I cannot do it then I am disappointing these people --- so, I might take a neighbour's dog for a walk which actually now has become a habit because I walk every day or go and pick up garbage along a nature path, etc.) . . . what I guess that I am trying to say is that I deal with anxiety on a one day at a time basis now and rather than focusing on what is good for others, I focus on what is good for me . . .I am better able to deal with my triggers of anxiety without shoving others away and becoming isolated . . .
My "advice" for you is to figure out what you can do comfortable and make that your focus and little by little deal with the issues of your hard times by chipping away at them always, though, remaining focused on what you need . . . as you recover, you will be better equipped to help others and it may happen that with a different approach to anxiety, you might find that your meds work more effectively for you . . .
Please check in with us and let us know if there is anything we can do to help support you .. .. . take care, kc