sorry this may be long, but my curiosity is killling me,
my wife is 25 years old, I have noticed over the years, her lack of ambitions, her having fears of me leaving her, and very unmotivated.
i am currently in the armed forces, love my job, and she has no issue with me being in the forces, since she grew up being around it. Here is my dilemma, i'll start from the beginning, she startles very easily, I find her clingy at times, if I want to leave for a weekend she tends to give me a hard time indirectly, if I do go, she will text me alot. She lost all her hair a few years back due to Alopecia Areata and i think it is over stress.
She feels the need to call her parents every single day. Now she is okay to move away from them, but at one point she wanted to wait until they passed away. Her brother is in the army as well, but getting released.. he drinks alot and caused many problems. Her sister married someone almost twice her age ( daddy issues ) and my wife is currently in Basic training in the army and every night she feels that she will fall a sleep and never wake up, She said she knows she wants this and can do it, but her emotions are getting the best of her and she cannot stop it, she has no confidence to defend her self from people talking back to her, but she wants to.
Now to her parents.. I personally cannot stand them, her mother drinks and gets loud for attention, every one has to know she exists, her father also drank ( why her brother did ), mostly to drain the nagging of his wife. Her mother stresses her out and tells her not to stress or she will get a stroke.. and so on, my wife has been sheltered, never taught anything. Basically fed to survive cause they felt they had to. Her parents had her when they were in their early 40's so she was a big accident. She is very very homesick right now, she is suppose to come home tomorrow for her first weekend off, and she is most scared now that something bad will happen to her. Her parents never taught her nothing, never punished her for her mistakes and never showed her there are consequences for her actions so she can learn from. She is scared to take any sort of risk. Her mom was a stay at home mom and my wife finds this to be safe, but does not want that life.
Who should she see, a psychologist, psychiatrist ? any ideas what could be wrong.