In the end, you want your children to be well-rounded, happy, and hopefully passionate about something. When you think of the awesome responsibility of raising other human beings, it seems overwhelming sometimes.
I certainly think times are much different (aren't they always), more complicated now than when I was growing up. Most households had two parents and the mother stayed home. There were no video games, iPods, cell phones, or computers, just TV to drag the kids away from. There was not the amount of organized sports, leagues, organized activities, competitions, camps, etc... You played outside all day in the summer until it was dark. You rode your bikes all over the place without fear. That just doesn't happen any more. Many things have changed.
My children are still pretty young, but one thing I have learned is that children from the same family can be SO different. My oldest is driven, motivated, and intense. He sits at his desk and WANTS to study math. I don't get it. My middle son is content to sit. He has always been that way. He really doesn't even like to be outdoors. I don't get that, either. My daughter is very competitive; she always wants to be the best at everything. They are their own people. You can nurture, guide, encourage, but basically they are who they are. So, if my son wants to study math, we will buy him books and schedule tests, and I will worry that he achieves his goals. My daughter wants to be a really good skater, so I will drive her to the rink, pay for lessons, and agonize over whether she did well at her competitions.
So, as an anxiety sufferer, I do worry and stress more than the average parent, I know. Because of my issues, I know I am extra-sensitive to their feelings and their wants. I go overboard trying to do the best and agonize if they're feeling hurt or sad. Most caring parents worry whether they are doing a good job and making the right decisions. We want our children to be happy!
Tinam7, I'm sure you were/are not stupid or negligent. Your library outings were perfect for your family, as were your read aloud times. We all had/have the same goal-to do the best for our family and children. BTW, my sister was on Romper Room one time, and we watched the show before school in the mornings.