I have a problem I've been recently struggling with. Just a bit of background. I either have a "fast metabolism" or did not use to eat enough in the past. I wasn't anorexic or had health complications, but I decided to gain weight. I started working out, cutting cardio out (since I used to run everyday) and eating quite a bit (4000 calories a day). Now, given the amount of carbs specifically I have to consume, I cannot afford to be nauseous during the day...Ever.
Here is where my problem begins. I have social anxiety. I sometimes overanalyze social interactions. I got over it by tossing myself into my university's social scene in first year and that problem largely went away. Now however my problem has changed locus. Instead of social situations, I now have extreme anxiety to the point of nausea, shivering, etc specifically before I have sex with men, on dates, etc.
This has turned my life into a choice between blocking even thoughts of a sex life/dating and getting through the day comfortably or being violently nauseous all day because I'm seeing someone, about to go on a date, etc. There just does not seem to be an in-between. I don't tell people this and only two people are aware of my problem. One is a close friend with the same problem (who does not seem to want to do anything about it). The second is a potential love interest I was playing tennis with (that I told on a complete whim, thinking it might help).
People usually can't tell that I'm anxious and think I'm just a very "intense" person. I really, really hate this situation. I neither want to come off "intense", nor do I want to feel that way. I decided to post this after vomiting everything I ate a couple of days ago because a guy I'm seeing was texting me.
How does one deal with a situation like this? To be quite honest, now that I think about it, even with platonic male/female friends, I tend to have trouble eating when hanging out, typically leaving my food unfinished at restaurants.
Should I take anti-nausea medication? I cannot function on anti-depressants/-anxiety meds. Do I need to "get to the root of the problem" to be able to overcome it? Should I be talking to people about this? I have a particular dislike for sharing baggage with people (particularly on dates). I would hate to have to talk about social anxiety with someone I'm going out with.