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Offline Sprout35

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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #10 on: June 24, 2013, 01:51:11 PM »
I hate talking on the phone! I would rather talk in person, or better yet, by email or text. That fear of rejection gets me Everytime.
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #11 on: July 19, 2013, 05:41:06 PM »
I can totally relate to this. I'm glad for texting/***** and email. I do alot of communicating that way.  I'm a little different though, in that I would rather phone a stranger then someone I know. I still get very nervous calling strangers, but for some reason it's more embarrassing if I know the person. I guess I don't want them to know how nervous I am talkinv to them. Anyways. That's my two cents.  :P
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #12 on: July 28, 2013, 02:01:58 AM »
Definitely not alone there, I feel the same way with phones. I feel like I can't think fast enough to reply properly because I'm trying to focus/process the information coming form the other side. When I hear myself I think that I sound like I'm not fully focused in the conversation, when I really am trying to be.
I prefer to use text or email and avoid most things that require calling.
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #13 on: September 13, 2013, 01:26:22 PM »
I have stuttering and phone anxiety at the same time
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #14 on: September 28, 2013, 03:26:49 AM »
Everyone here is discussing simply how they get anxious when they have to make phone calls.

Has anyone stopped and wondered WHY they're so nervous about making phone calls?

I ask because I struggle with making phone calls as well, but I know why (for the most part).  People are frickin' mean!! I get so much anxiety over calling customer service type places, restaurants, and doctor's offices. 

Customer service reps can act angry and like they want you to hurry up, which causes me to feel flustered and apologetic and nervous.

Restaurants can  be rude as well (example: calling to place a to go order).  They can act angry at you for having special requests (hold the tomatoes!) or like you're asking too much of them.  They can act inattentive and stupid, which infuriates me (I'm spending the money; they should care enough to listen to my order properly!).

Doctor's offices are the worst.  I'm usually already anxious, if I"m calling a doctor's office. I'm probably either awaiting test results (I have been struggling with frequent UTIs for over a year now) or scheduling an appointment.  OR, discussing symptoms that came back when I was supposed to be "healed." These doctor situations cause a lot of anxiety for me and the LAST thing I need is an angry-sounding lady on the phone with no kindness in her voice whatsoever.


Does anyone else feel that people are generally just too mean to deal with, at times?

I try to tell myself I'm reading too much into it and that they can't jump at me through the phone, but sometimes I just sit for a long time, procrastinating to make that phone call.


Any advice on how to bite the bullet and just make the call?   Maybe focusing on other objects in the room; pinching oneself, etc...
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #15 on: October 08, 2013, 06:43:27 PM »
i can definitely relate! I absolutely hate phone calls with anyone other than my very closest friend and my mom/dad. anyone else I basically freak out over talking to because I just know that I won't be able to hold a conversation, leading to awkwardness and a feeling of being looked down on for having such awkward, poor phone talking skills. I basically say "hi" and then let the other person lead the whole conversation, with me just answering any questions they ask, and there are always many awkward "yeah"s because I simply don't know what to say. I would much rather email or text or any other non verbal form of communication than talk on the phone. I remember when I was younger and I would want to go play at my friends house, I would always beg my mom to do the calling of her parents for me to ask "is so and so there?" and she thought I was nuts and needed to grow up and call them myself LOL ::) sometimes it would get to the point where I would want to avoid making the call so bad I would just decide "never mind i'll just stay home if that's what it takes" phone calls are definitely an enourmous pain!

and to Aurelie, I totally agree! maybe the reason phone calls are so scary sometimes is simply because people can be really unnessecarily rude! making calls is bad enough without having to feel like the person you are talking to is fed up with you and wanting you to be gone. I know when people hurry me along on the phone, I feel very un-confident and like I am just a bother. any time I can avoid making a phone call to someone I am not extremely familiar with, I will. phone calls are much to stressful! also, I don't know if anybody else does this, but sometimes when I am on the phone, especially if it's with a new friend or someone I don't know very well, I will idly walk around the house with the phone, sometimes even outside around the house. I don't know, it somehow makes me feel a little better :P
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #16 on: November 08, 2013, 05:00:56 PM »
I have always had a hard time making phone calls, even now I avoid making calls at all costs. And answering calls is a little safer because I always use an answering machine and I don't pick up unless I know who it is first. But I still hate talking on the phone.
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #17 on: November 10, 2013, 05:25:40 PM »
Phone calls have never been a huge issue with me, UNLESS...it's with family members. I liked the suggestion someone has already mentioned. Taking notes of things to say before engaging in the conversation. Half of my anxiety comes from being awkward and silent alone, so this is something i've done several times and it does help.
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #18 on: November 17, 2013, 12:45:28 AM »
 You are not alone friend. I get the same way, although maybe more often then not it's ***** calls then phone calls. I'm so afraid to call other people out of fear that I'll end up being a third wheel, or bothering them in the middle of something important, or interrupting something with their other friends, but when they call me I get extremely giddy thinking "Oh my god someone want to talk to me, how could this be?" so it can't be that abnormal. Although maybe it's not exactly the same as you, we're similar enough I think.  If it's just something like calling tech support or what have you, just tell yourself that unlike normal conversation, if something goes awry you can hang up and never speak to that person again if need be.
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Re: Phone calls, UGH!
« Reply #19 on: January 21, 2014, 03:15:44 PM »
Oh gosh, its not just me! At my job in college I sometimes was required to answer phone calls and I would always pray that I would get a customer to avoid having to pick up the phone! Im fine talking to my boyfriend, mother, and grandparents but beyond that I get nervous and shaky and feel like an idiot! If my phone rings I just let it go straight to voice mail. Im glad to see so many people are dealing with this and I am not alone. It feels so childish and people tell me to just suck it up and deal, but its hard, ya know?
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