I don't know where else to post this.
I have been in a Long-Distance Relationship for six years with a woman who was diagnosed with OCD in her teens. We are both in our mid-40's. The first four years was gangbusters. The only problem was her obsessing over HIV, which I don't have. Eventually that stopped. That was the only obsession that I outright said no to. There were plenty of other obsessions. But none like that. Sure she obsessed about my eyes being adequately protected from the sun when I was out biking, or my ears being adequately protected when I was using power tools. But nothing to the severity of the HIV obsession.
Fast forward to the Fall of 2011. From that point, since, there have been several periods where we have communicated little, if at all. Six years ago, we would spend several hours a night on the phone. Now we hardly talk. When I have asked her, if I did anything wrong, she says it is because of her, not me.
Recently, She started telling me to find another woman. I told her I refuse. I am not trying to give the impression of being a slight bit controlling.
I have had physical health issues from birth. Prior to her, basically no woman has wanted to really be with me, because of my health issues. Because of the responsibility needed, should my physical health take a dive. Sure I was married for eight years to my (ex)wife, and engaged for four more to my (ex)fiance. But my (ex)wife is either, mentally retarded or autistic.(I have never been told which) My (ex)fiance is Bi-Polar. My (ex)wife just stared at me when I had an epileptic seizure in bed, telling me two years after we separated, that she wished my health problems would "just go away". I found that to be terribly ignorant of her. While my (ex)fiance came through with flying colors when I had two separate seizures in front of her. She also said I had thirteen different mental and physical health issues. Even though, she is not a clinician.
The woman with OCD, has never been emotionally abusive to me. She has done more for me, than my (ex)wife and/or, my (ex)fiance combined ever could do
I still love her. I have a feeling, she has been having tremendous ROCD guilt.