Marriage wisdom

[sweetnspunky]

I am getting married Friday. It is the first marriage for both of us. Anyone have any sage advice or wisdom for this new bride to be. How do couples that have been together for so long stay connected and in love throughout the years? Would love to hear from others about their marriages.

[Engineerwhisp]

I can offer a little as I've only been married three years.   
Being honest with each other of coarse a must. Although life gets super busy with work and such we have found it is very important to take a "time out" for some us time whether it be as simple as going out to a sit down restaurant for dinner or have a full out date night. It's challenging for me at times with my anxiety but I've realized how important it is which helps get me out more. Communication!!! Sounds silly but I wasn't always the best teller of how I felt, I would just keep it in which lets it build up to an argument. Lol. Sorry not much advice but that's the key things I've found so far in my young marriage. Congratulations! I hope your special day is filled with precious memories.

[wegngis]

I came across this post, and though a little old, I thought I would weigh in.  I've been married 20 years this summer, and my wife and I have never had a serious argument.  Something I can offer you is to respect one another, and put the other person's needs first.  Just be nice!  If you say hurtful things, you can't take it back, so just don't do it.

Obviously there's more to it than just a list, but here are a few:

• Don't be selfish.
• Don't keep score on what the other person is doing (good or bad) and expect some sort of equal treatment.  For instance, my wife goes out with her friends, I don't then expect to even the score by going out with my friends.
• Don't have "his money" and "her money."  It's just "your money"
• Be quick to say your sorry, but mean it when you say it.  If you don't mean it, wait until you do, even if it's the next day.
• If it's important to your spouse, it should be important to you too.