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Acceptting Anxiety!!!!!
« on: March 19, 2013, 11:13:03 AM »
If this is some place else...sorry I looked and couldnt find!.......
I have been doing reading and exercises ect. Just trying to figure out how to "Accept your anxiety"! Has anyone got to that point? How did you do it? What can I expect when I do? Any success storys about this would be Awesome!! Thanks!! I would love to be able accept anxiety so I can move on with my life and get over dwelling about it!! sooooo frustrating!!
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Re: Acceptting Anxiety!!!!!
« Reply #1 on: March 19, 2013, 12:18:41 PM »
Try reading 'Basis for Recovery' and 'A Philosophy of Anxiety' in my signature.
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« Reply #2 on: March 19, 2013, 04:10:46 PM »
Hello,

My experience is completly based on accepting anxiety. I have never taken any drugs, I have worked with my mind. Here is a brief explanation of my experience:
Since I was about 14 I remember that I was very insecure and mostly anything scared me. Obviously I didnt know what was happening to me. Later on, it started to get worse, I became scared of several situations that made me feel like was literarly going to die. It was like if I had a monster inside telling me that pretty soon it was going to kill me, but every second. When I was about 20 I had my first panic attack, it is a very strong memory that I keep because of the strong emotions I felt. In the next months, I became really scared that it happened again so obviously I helped it start again. This was the first time I visited a psicologist. It was one of the things that most helped me in my anxiety because it taught me how to deal with panic attacks wich is something completly possible. Panic attacks occur because of hyperventilation, so if you control your breathing, you will not have panic attacks. I am grateful today that I learned how to stop panic attacks because its one more situation I have overcomed. Later in my life, something happened. It was like if I had hidden the anxiety emotions through a long period in my life but now I couldnt evade it anymore, it was too strong. I think this was my worst part because I couldnt consentrate on anything else in my life. I remember hitting the walls of my room because of the desesperation that the anxiety emotions made me feel. Everyday was a really impossible day to live. I cryed a million times, I tryed everything possible but absolutly nothing worked. I knew I was stuck and I had to change something in my doing to start finding different results. I also knew that i had go get professional help but I was very scared because some of my thought were so crazy that I was really ashamed of them. So for me going to a psycologist, was one of the bravest thngs I did in life (as my psycologist said: "not many people have the courage to face their inner deamons"). Its important to understand that everyone in life has done millions of things that regret and are ashamed in life, but most of them understand that they are not coming back, that they were done in different situation of life and can really forgive themselves or understand why things happen without blaming it on ourselves every single day. Thats the difference with us, anxiety people, our deamons have much more power than anyone elses because anxiety helps make our brain believe that they are completly true and are happening. I also recommend investigating a lot before going to a psycologist, it has to be someone with studies and expertise on anxiety. At this point, things started going upwards and no longer downwards. I started achieving (in my personal experiences) different things. The first thing, i learned that I was a very anxious person. Second, I learned why I was a very anxious person. It manly had to do with expeirneces when I was really young. Third, and very important, I faced all the monsters that I had in my head and fourth, I learned several ways to deal with anxiety. Next, I will give a lot of things that has helped me a lot, but the most important thing to know is the following: I live with anxiety because i am an anxious person, it has not dissapeared and I think it will never dissapear, I learned to accept it and to live with it. It is not my fault I am anxious, I do not control my emotions nor my thoughts, but what I do control is my attitude towards them and this really makes a difference. I live my ilfe in perfect conditions: i have a girlfriend who I truly love, i have the best friends in the world, I have the most complete family and I am a CEO at a company; and im also a person with GAD. Their are days in wich it is so difficult only to get out of bed, their are moments so scary and their are times we feel very alone; but remember that free will is more powerful than anything and wanting to get up and try as hard as you can to accomplish your goals, is stronger than any anxiety thought or feeling. Everyone of us have the possibility to do whatever we want with the things that occur in life with us, and anxiety is just a thing that occurs in life. Its also very important to get to know how anxiety works, it will help you understand a lot of situations. I really recommend the following: exercise, meditation (mindfulness, JON KABAT ZIHN), therapy, anxiety journal.

I hope that this can help anyone. Remember their are very hard days, but we decide if we want to stay in our bed crying all day or if we choose another path.

Best regards
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Re: Acceptting Anxiety!!!!!
« Reply #3 on: March 19, 2013, 06:28:54 PM »
Thank you so much for that. Good for you not taking meds. I wish I could get there. I feel because I have been on meds that my anxiety is still there but keeps my major panic at bay! Thank goodness! I feel that is one of the most evil parts of anxiety is to have a full blown Panic attack! But the daily anxiety is more anoying than anything! Thank you for you story. It is nice to know that people do deal with anxiety and do not need meds to get past the humps that try to hold one back in life! My problem is getting to the point that anxiety is a feeling inside of "anxiousness" and that I really am not sick,that I am fine,that I can go to the store by myself and exct! I am trying lol but have read that just telling yourself this that it can seem to prolong the anxiety feeling for longer because I am focusing on it so much.
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Re: Acceptting Anxiety!!!!!
« Reply #4 on: March 19, 2013, 06:43:18 PM »
Cheesus
Thank you for the links! :happy0151:
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Re: Acceptting Anxiety!!!!!
« Reply #5 on: March 20, 2013, 12:21:52 PM »
Accepting your anxiety is a way of accepting yourself and your temperament. There are aspects of ourselves we can change and others we can't. Very often, anxious people have sensitive temperaments - we're sensitive to the people and activities around us, to our environments and to our own thoughts. This kind of temperament makes us both powerful and vulnerable. For me, it's about accepting and valuing my temperament - maybe if you didn't have your anxiety, you would also lose out on other valuable qualities you possess. Acceptance means I don't have to react to my thoughts the way I used to - I can adapt more of an "Oh well" attitude and get on with my day.
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Re: Acceptting Anxiety!!!!!
« Reply #6 on: March 21, 2013, 03:40:27 PM »
This is one excellent question. And i think you should dig that yourself to get the real answer..

But sure this is the way to get more from anxiety than what you have lost 'coz of it.

take care..
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