Ava, I just so happen to be going through something similiar.
I am a neat/clean freak and feel comfortable only when all my things are in order. Well, last weekend, my husband started pointing downstairs. He must have been dreading to tell me there was water in the basement. The entire carpet in our finished/carpeted spare bedroom was soaked. It is a decorated room full of expensive furniture. I scrambled to get the things I could out of the water and put bags over the legs of the wooden furniture.
We had been told we needed to rip up the carpet, remove the padding, and let the carpet dry out. My husband had to move all the furniture to the family room and rip up the carpet. He had to take the bed apart, remove all the dresser drawers and slide the furniture out. Some furniture legs are cracked, and the wet carpet has such a rotten odor. The wet carpet smells like cat urine, and that smell has overtaken our entire house. And of course my husband had to go out of town today.
I surprised myself; I was taking it pretty well, until yesterday. I just exploded-about EVERYTHING! What, is there a crack in our foundation? What are we supposed to do, spend thousands of dollars we don't have to have that repaired? If we don't look into the cause, will this happen whenever a lot of snow melts or was it because our downspot came off? Everything is out of order, my husband is gone, and our house stinks. AHHHHHH!!!!
I wish I could offer some words of support, but this all goes with homeownership. We've had water spraying out all over from our water softener malfunctioning. We've had our roof leak. We've had our furnance die in the dead of winter. Our house isn't even that old.
You are anxious from the overwhelming task of househunting, packing, and moving. Moving is one of the most stressful events in anyone's life. You are thrown off balance, and it takes a long time to get situated. Now the hot water heater is one more thing to have to deal with.
I am trying to use visualization to help me. I am picturing my carpet back in place and freshly steam-cleaned. All my furniture will be in order. I haden't vacuumed behind my dresser in a long time, so it will be cleaner than it has been. I will reorganize my belongings, and it will be better than before. It will smell clean and fresh, and I will appreciate it more.
The effects of the hot water fiasco will lose its hold over you gradually. You can start visualizing your belongings coming together in your new home. The time will come, before you know it, when you are all settled and enjoying your home.